You should feel flattered when the sociopath goes to great lengths to deliberately make you feel jealous.
I know, in rational thought, you should be happy that he/she is gone from your life. Hurray, they have a new source for supply.
But deep down, there is this sinking feeling. A feeling where you wonder why is he now being the great guy? Why is it that he is now getting his life together? Why couldn’t he be like this with me?
You will notice that the sociopath, once discovered for who he really is, will not leave quietly, but will often do all that he can to make you jealous.
He loves to tell you, or to drop subtle hints, so that you discover what he is now doing with his life (often this will be after a few days total silence)
- How he has met someone new
- How great and fantastic this is
- How he is now successful
- How he is now doing EVERYTHING that you wanted him to do when he was with you
You should remember that the sociopath is the master of illusion. Whilst he was manipulating and deceiving you when he was with you, he will continue to do this to you until he finally finds a new source for supply and discards you altogether (he wouldn’t want you around ruining his new perfect image).
It might hurt that he has moved onto someone else (and so swiftly), and you might tell yourself, ‘why is it that i got all the crap, and the next person gets the good guy?’ or ‘why did he live off me financially and now he is supporting himself?’
Do NOT fall into this trap of thinking, for this is all that it is, a trap.
If you are thinking this way the sociopath still has power over you, and control over you. He will do and say all that he can to get a reaction from you.
- Remember he is a magician, a master of illusion
- Remember that he is a compulsive pathological liar
- Remember that he mirrors back to you, what you wanted
When all else fails, the next manipulation tool for the sociopath is to try to make you feel jealous. This will make the sociopath feel better, because he loves two things
- To win
- To be in control
You might think, but we are not together anymore, why would he do this? A sociopath will never fully let go of a potential form of supply, if there is a chance that he could milk one last drop of supply from you.
If you start to feel jealous. Stop – think!!! What are you actually feeling jealous of?
You are being manipulated again. Someone who is right for you will not make you feel this way. Will not play games with you. Will have more respect for you than to lie to you, and would never lead you on, or lead you into a false sense of security. Someone who is not a sociopath, will respect you, your welfare, your life and your needs. A sociopath thinks only of himself. If he is trying to make you jealous, it means only one thing, that you are moving forward and he wants to show you, how jealous he is of this. His attempts to make you jealous, show only one thing – how jealous he is of YOU!.
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