High and low functioning sociopaths and the mask of deception

Some work, some choose you as their career option!

Whilst a character trait of all sociopaths is parsidical lifestyle. Some do go to work, and hold down jobs, often very powerful jobs.

Low functioning sociopath

The low functioning sociopath, is what i often discuss on this site. They are the ones who are the provincial con man, they operate one to one. Often using love to fraud someone in a relationship. They are natural predators. When meeting someone -

  • They immediately assess you. How likely are you to fall for the con? They ask you questions to try to test you. To see what your reaction will be.
  • Trial information back to you, to see how you respond

If you are seen as a good victim, the sociopath will then move on to using information gained in the assessment stage to seduce you, to lure you in, to build trust. Which is false, as it is based upon lies.

You will not be aware of the lies that are told in the beginning.

Lack of conscience

The sociopath has a lack of conscience. No remorse, guilt or shame for their actions. Because of this, they can easily lie to you. Can stare right into your face and lie. if you look closely there are the signs that this person is lying, but you quickly put these thoughts to the back of your mind.

Deceptive mask

The sociopath will, when he first meets you, be unsure who to be. He will not know what mask to wear until he knows what he needs to be, to capture you. To do this he needs information about you. He will work hard to find out as much information about you, as quickly as he can.

Capturing is a good word. As this is what he does. Luring you into his web of deceit. Where so many lies are told, that he begins to partially believe his own lies. Not knowing the difference between truth and fiction.

In the sociopaths mind they go  into character. Of who they need to be. The last person that i was with, had lived in 3 different geographical locations. Each place had a different accent. I found looking back, that when spinning lies, he was moving himself into character. This is why his accent changed. In his mind he was in character. Because psychologically he was in character, his vocal accent changed. This was to make his persona more believable. When his accent changed, was when he put on a new mask, and was almost believing himself the lies that he told. His persona, and his body language changed, as did his accent.

The low functioning sociopath has little regard for morals, right or wrong, keeping to the law. They always feel that they are above the law. They get pleasure from conning, and duping people. They enjoy putting on a new mask and being a different person. It is by telling lies, and actions that are deliberately set up, to manipulate and deceive, that the victim will believe that they are with someone who is wonderful, kind, caring, and someone who they can build a future with. The sociopath just sees you as somebody who they can use, for whatever it is that they want (whilst at the same time, lying through their teeth to tell you that you are the love of their life).

They have a lack of ability to make future plans. Living very much in the moment. They do not think of potential future outcome of behaviour, and that of course they will eventually get caught. They enjoy using somebody for as long as they can. Low functioning sociopaths can cause a lot of damage to a persons life. You are literally prey, prey that they will use, and live off.

Damage that can done by the sociopath mask of deception

  • Lack of self esteem/psychological damage
  • Financial damage
  • Damage to your own networks, family, friends
  • Damage to your employment
  • Threat of losing your home

In fact, damage to any area of your life, where you have a life, and the sociopath has none. A sociopath will mirror you, and live off of your life force. As the sociopath plays the victim so very well, you are lured into feeling sorry for him. This mask of vulnerability is just an act. A sociopath can turn on the tears, and go into full dramatic mode. Simply to con and deceive. Will be sobbing, and wiping his face as if there were tears. But there will be none.

See this video of Mick Philpott – sociopath who called his press conference after his 6 children died in a house fire, that he was responsible for setting, to get back his ex who had left (he was living with two women at the same time), he wanted to frame her, and get her children back. It backfired and sadly all of the children died in the fire. This is him, fake acting, fake tears. Its all an act to deceive.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxq6Zvr8mPY

Not caring that he has caused all his childrens death. He brazenly fakes tears, when there are no tears. Will use a tissue and sniff. Sociopaths will great lengths to deceive. They will do this to your face.

Parasidic lifestyle

The sociopath thinks that he or she is above having to work for a living and pay for themselves. A sociopath can be attracted to someone who is a single parent, who has a home and income from the state, someone who has a lot of money and is bragging about what they want. If they do not have what they want, they find some way to take it. The sociopath does not think about your needs, your rights or your welfare, or that taking from you, will lead you to go without. The sociopath enjoys conning, scamming and stealing. Because the sociopath has no guilt, feels no sense of remorse or shame, they can do this blatantly to your face, whilst telling you that they ‘love you’. If you are ever in doubt, when you hear the sociopath say the words ‘I love you’, change the words to ‘I am using you’.

The high functioning sociopath

high functioning sociopath

The high functioning sociopath, is intelligent, and does work. However whilst the low functioning sociopath can cause damage one to one, the high functioning sociopath can cause damage to millions.

A good example of a high functioning sociopath, is a world leader, someone who works in politics (I am not saying that all politicians are psychopaths or sociopaths, but certainly some are). You will witness the high functioning politician do the following:

  • Lying (about policies and political spin)
  • Deflection of blame
  • Need to go to war, when there is no real need for it (war on terror)
  • Feeding false information to cause fear and control
  • Showing a total lack of empathy, in the guise of (for the greater good)
  • High personal expenses at the expense of the tax payer
  • Shifting the blame (its always someone else’s fault, last Government or some other factor)
  • Never answering a question in a direct way
  • Using others to achieve their own personal goals

Have you ever watched a politician be asked a direct question, and yet answer the question without really answering the question at all?

The low functioning sociopath does exactly the same. Other examples, are

Jimmy Savile, High functioning Charismatic Sociopath – who hid behind his celebrity status to abuse young girls. This is a great video with Louis Theroux

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xu2udi_when-louis-theroux-met-jimmy-saville_news#.UWdq7qLqmzg

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xu2i9x_exposure-the-other-side-of-jimmy-saville-couchtripper_news#.UWelvKLqmzg

Other cases:

Another high functioning sociopath

All sociopaths are deceptive, dishonest and compulsive pathological liars. They put on a mask of deception to achieve their own agenda. Having little feeling, they get a rush of endorphines, by  conning, duping, and deceiving.

The last case is extreme, it is rare for somebody to kill, most don’t kill, but they can suck the life out of your life, and cause complete destruction, resulting in a life that looks like it has been in a car crash.

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33 thoughts on “High and low functioning sociopaths and the mask of deception”

  1. What do you do when the person you feel is the sociopath is your (adult ) child,who you cannot cut out of your life?

    1. You love, with boundaries. I write about dating a sociopath. I do understand what you are talking about too.

      My answer is from a spiritual perspective. I believe that we choose our life lessons before we are born. We choose our parents. And it is already agreed who our children will be, and the lessons that they have to teach us.

      It is tough when it is your child. As you love your child, but they can cause so much destruction to your own life. All you can do, is remember –

      YOU are the parent.
      Set the boundaries what is and is not acceptable

      If you have to distance for a while, then sometimes you have to do so. But let them know – that you are distancing from the behaviour. Not from them. That you love them, but you do not love the behaviour. That it is not acceptable to you. (remember this is in their brain, its the way that their brain works)…..

      As long as you are honest. Distance is fine. As long as you are making it clear that you are distancing yourself from the behaviour not the person. The love of your child is still there.

      Can you write a letter explaining this. With emphasis that you love your child – but you cannot cope with the hurtful behaviour anymore? or have things broken down too much?

      The point is, no matter what you love your child

      1. I. Have lean that we teach our kids but our kids really teach us so we have to lean to pray and let them make their own choices at the same time don’t embrace them when their choices are bad like my daughter wanted to live a gay life i prayed to My God to deliver and he did parent we have power over that demon with Gods help Love them always don’t worry just pray if God can’t do it it can’t be done Ps dont get mad that My God have power over all demon (PRAY)

  2. I love your site & its my therapy, my inspiration, I read posts, info on it every day & makes me feel stronger & not want to contact my ex, so thats good. Even got urge to write my own blog of being with a sociopath. Even got the title in mind, Boulevard of Broken Dreams, Pieces of You, Castles in the Sky. Lol. He was loud & talking at me, lecturing me every day since we got back together for the 3rd time, just before xmas, too much of a head ….. Now i’m out of it, i will never go back. His charming facade was vanishing, appearing less & less, the nasty side Mr Hyde was present more & more. I was in love with who i thought he was, the facade, him mirroring back my dreams of a heartfelt romance. But he was the wolf in sheeps clothing. He was more narcisst I think but with bpd, sociopath, but minus the stealing money or possessions, he worked when he had too. but he kept lecturing me how hard he worked years ago, 14 hrs a day hard physical trade work & said he socialised at church, went to bible studies, did music, more than i ever will in my life, he was so competitive & i’m not. When he was love bombing he said i was the most forgiving woman, pretty, marriage, trip away. but so shallow emotions as he was getting distant alot the last few wks of rship & pretended he’d called me on mobile & landline, to say he was staying home that nite, but there were no msgs or missed call msgs or anything. I think he wanted to create drama, he knew i’d get upset & get suspicious, it was a way of him exiting the rship, as we argued alot on the phone, he’d hang up, then he called the police on me because i felt suicidal. He knew that my friends would step in, protect me & tell me not to see him anymore. so it was mind games for sure, as he wasnt honest to tell me its over. He left some stuff in my house & his spare house key in the bag on my front porch, i think, incase he wanted to return? incase his new option didnt work out? 2 wks later he wrote distant cold note wanting his stuff back. The tone of his note was like we never knew each other at all, a complete stranger. Weird. Then a few wks later again he tossed things i’d left at his place, over my back fence in a bag incl photos of me! & letters i’d written about the break up, trying to understand, ask why he behaved like this. It was a weird rollercoaster of a rship, him creating drama, i can see the cycle, pattern now that i’m out of it. Writing this is therapy & reading your experiences, is too. Sorry for the long msg. Thankyou again for this forum, site. We’re not alone at least. All dated the same man or women, well almost anyway.

  3. Its all about power and control for these sociopaths! Mine was 18 years of marriage with 2 daughters.My Ex got away with all my money(millions) because he is a president Infidelity invest.,he made up bold face lies throughout our million dollar trial.He always told me he had the power in the court,and I didn’t stand a chance.He was an everyday “tornado’ in our lives so Im lucky to be alive so far.Though he has promised,I don’t know what more he can do to destroy me and the children. Although he has power and a lot of money to buy more evil, and still never be caught. (He gets people to do all his dirty work) Oh yes he can also fool anyone with his charming side as he sings all kinds of Beatles love songs to impress.He is a true snake in a suit.
    He cheated his way all the way to the top,getting all the promotions,getting innocent people fired. AbbyJ has no idea what a sadist and vindictive man she’s got working until he wants her seat. It disgusts me that there is so much corruption in our courts and all these “Mr Ripleys” get away with murder and hurting children.He has about 35 million dollars(with my marital money) while Im in debt from the divorce.He hated being a family man and used his children to appear innocent in court, totally lying about his abuse towards me and the kids. Read, Money talks…

    1. Oh wow, welcome to the site sjiv, I am so sorry for your losses. It must feel that you are in the midst of a tornado. It sounds like you are going through such a rough time, I am glad you found us!! :)

  4. Not all sociopaths are “deceptive” and “dishonest”. Psychopathic behaviour is different than psychopathy itself, which is a very misunderstood type of personality.

      1. I see a pattern with all of the sociopaths that visit your site (I’m making an assumption they are based on their comments). They get mad at the thought of being called a liar…and swear up and down they are honest. Or at he very least, they argue for hours about how “not ALL sociopaths are liars.” Puh-lease. It really just proves the point even more.

  5. I think I may have met a high functioning sociopath and I admire I feel scared. His profession is acting/ directing so he would be very good at acting and deceiving. He is exceptionally charming but also very deviant in many ways which in a strange way is exciting. He is also diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome or so he says which is his excuse for not feeling empathy, he disappears for days on end with no contact whatsoever, does not respond to messages or phone calls etc. yet when I am with him he makes me feel amazing, it is such a roller coaster, I feel as though I should walk away but I don’t know how!!!

    1. People who have aspergers are very intelligent and they can struggle with empathy and can seem quite blunt sometimes. They can also get lost In projects so forget things that others see as important. What makes you think that he is a sociopath?

  6. Thank you for this blog. I’m only starting to research the topic but believe I was involved with a low-functioning sociopath. There WERE the effects upon myself you mention, such as psychological damage
    and damage to my own networks, family, friends, employment etc., but also still a residual effect: One of still ‘not quite being able to believe it’, even though at the time it had almost sent me over the edge, if not for very understanding friends. Obviously, a lot more, but too much to get into here. Anyway, just wanted to say thanks for this. All the best.

  7. Would you describe a man as a high functioning sociopath or have a personality disorder when he manipulates women for sex? He trolls the internet to meet women. Lies to them and once he uses them for sex he is done with them. If they are great in bed then he manipulates them into thinking that they have a relationship. He has no remorse for their feelings after they realized they’ve been used. He gives just enough attention and attentiveness to think they are the only woman for him but then turns cold.

    He lives in my neighborhood and we met while walking my dog. He owns a dog so he would use his dog to lure women. I am physically fit and my male friends say that I am very attractive and they can’t understand why I am wasting time with this man. I could be dating any one else. At first my instinct was to walk away and I should’ve listened. He makes promises of taking me on trips and recently started talking about getting married. Many times I have broke up with him because of his cheating and lies but he always begs me to come back.

    Most recently I caught him with a very obese woman at his house that he had invited over for dinner. He claimed that they were just friends but his body language said otherwise. She was picking up on my vibe that he and I were together but he must’ve said something to her for they proceeded to continue their visit, soaking the hot tub watching a movie while he was massaging his feet. Meanwhile, I was being ignored. However just two night ago we were in that hot tub together and had sex in his bed. His room mates know we were together and he in fact told them that they should expect me over more often. In fact it was one of his room mates that opened the door to let me in the house. I had left the party. I have not spoke to him since. His previous girlfriend before me broke of their relationship accusing him of cheating on her but he denies it. Meanwhile he had been dating another woman on and off for 8 years promising marriage to her while seeing me. She knew about me and was okay with it because she refused to have sex with him. However, I learned just recently that he had ended their friendship. I believe he is trying to make me in a relationship that he could have his cake and eat it too. But why sabotage it by inviting over a woman knowing that I could find out about it? If he wants to play the field then why can’t he just be single? There are plenty of women who just want a sex buddy why bother with a relationship at all?

    He would insult his ex-girlfriend and female friends/room mate for being over weight yet the women I have caught him cheating are obese with very large breasts. His relationship with his mother is strained yet he appeases her. She is a small petite women that is not obese and has small breasts.

    1. I think it’s interesting how consequential the size of the women he is cheating with is to you (it wouldn’t be the same with everyone). I’m just about sure this is why flaunting them to you is his chosen weapon. He will wear you down with your own weakness/element of issues, etc. I’m not saying he’s not being a j@ck@ss (he is), or that he isn’t trying to get you to make some compromises and bend to his will (he is). But, judging from my own experience, there may be elements that are being reflected to you about yourself that you might want to think more about.

      1. Thanks for your response. Although I didn’t think of it as my weakness but it could be. I know that his previous girlfriend was willing to bind to his will however he used the fact that she was over weight to dump her after 8 years. I found it odd that he would flaunt this obese woman in front of me and his room mates after ridiculing his over weight ex and room mate but his mind is not logical. We only live a few blocks away so it is easy for me to tell that someone is over and he has an open door policy that most of his friends and neighbors pop in. I have stopped by almost every day while I was out walking me dog. Sometimes I would take his dog with mine to the park so for me to arrive at his house unannounced wouldn’t be unusual.

        I was married to an addict so I know the patterns and understand what I need to do to get out of this relationship. Since we live close to each other It is harder because his womanizing is not legal and I can’t have him thrown in jail so I can break the cycle. I may need an intervention perhaps move away.

  8. Hi, My name is Danny, I believe I am a sociopath, I cant exactly describe if I am a high or low functioning sociopath cause I have not yet tried what sort of destruction I am capable of, I do know I am capable great destruction.
    I read pretty much all the posts here and including the entire article. I have studied counselling (BSc Hons), I am capable of manipulating anyone I know or have come across, deception, lies, made up stories, manipulation of famous quotes by famous people comes natural to me, its like I have pre-functioning lie producing factory in my mind, Do I always lie? well read on.
    SO FOR THE REASON OF MY POSTING THIS COMMENT HERE:
    is less to brag about it all and more with may be there should be our side of story.. I am a 29 year old men, I am 6ft tall, fairly built and may be slightly attractive in traditional standard, I have an IQ of 167, I have slept with over 110 Girls/Women, I earn between 38-43k (British Pound), I am kind, helpful towards people I know or care about, I am a extremely patient and a great listener But at the same time, I am blunt, harsh and always very straight to point as long as I am not hurting someone’s feeling with my words or actions, who doesn’t deserve it, and mostly the smartest guy in the room but I prefer being quite and observant, most of you who are reading this probably already calling me or thinking I am an arrogant arse hole, but I am being as honest and forthcoming as possible to perhaps explain a little bit of our (sociopaths) side of the story,
    Here are the things I don’t do:
    I am not blood sucking freeloader, I do not and never have been in any relation romantic or otherwise to rip people off for financial gain.
    I have not been in long term relation for 3 years therefore I do have a lot of one night stand and I often go out purely seeking pleasure BUT it does not mean I break hearts or cheat on girls, If I am in a relation with anyone, even for two weeks I would not sleep or have affair with another girl. I treat girls with utmost respect even if I don’t appreciate their views and ways, for instance we all big-headed twats, think they deserve all the happiness in the world while being harsh, cruel, racist or offensive towards anyone average looking or below average, yet I still treat them like princesses and tolerate their behavior and thats not only for sex but thats just the moral code I live by (I know pretty fucked up don’t worry I know)
    I like to think I am good friends as all my friends know I am always there for each and every one of them, in fact any feud or rivalry of a friend I take it very personally, if someone screw around or hurt any of my friend or family, I would go to great length to hurt them back in ways there never could possibly imagine (given they deserve it, if my friend\family are at wrong then I’d likely not do that)
    I am capable of reading almost imminently what sort of person I am talking to in matter of minutes, I do use that to my advantage whether I am looking for a partner to have fun with, going for a small business venture or simply any activity on social life, for instance: picking up a girl in mall/party/clubbing I do learn as much as I can about them which comes natural from body language. dressing style, accent, confidence and their social skill, all of which help me determine, what would she be interested in, what she would like or not like etc, don’t get me wrong I do get rejected but in over 100+ attempts in last couple of years alone I have only been rejected less than 20 times and out of those 20 times I manage to still convince 18 of them to either give out their number or take mine. My point is again not bragging but simply stating out the fact what I am capable of YET I don’t change my accent, become someone that I am not, I do not lie about my profession, I do not pretend to be rich even if I know that something a girl would be interested in, I also don’t as recently heart broken man to gain sympathy or win a soft corner.
    like I said and mentioned twice I do not hurt people for fun, take advantage of them financially or simply because I can, in fact I have a Robin Hood complex sometime I find myself getting involve in other people business if I know I can help them.
    I am capable of empathy but not towards everyone, I am twisted so I do not take anyone’s word for anything, even a most humble gesture to me is suspicious and I am always looking for reasons behind someone kindness etc. In fact I am most twisted person I have ever met and in fact I have been pretending to be normal pretty much all my life, acting as I am not as smart and dumb sometimes, letting people win arguments, and everything to stay under the radar, as except friends, family and some colleagues I am just an ordinary guy, to whom who truly know what I am capable of I am The Mentalist and the problem solver no matter the issue (though half the time I have no clue how to help them)
    I probably can go on and share few experiences and venture of my life but I am probably being irritatingly boring to most of you, therefore I will quit my life story. but after reading the article where it says almost ALL OF US SOCIOPATHS are extremely dangerous (I agree), always lying, deceptive, we do not have remorse or incapable of apathy, thats something I do not agree upon as not all of us are just selfish blood sucking twats with means to just do harm.
    I am subscribing to this page and article with email alert so I wanna offer if any of you have any question, curiosity, confusion or simply wanna know something about me or my kind (lol) please just reply to me here I am willing and would like answer any and all queries, question etc.
    TO ADMIN: Perhaps I can make my own topic/article/post to offer people to understand us better and answer any relevant questions.
    Danny Sid

  9. Hi, My name is Sid, I believe I am a sociopath, I cant exactly describe if I am a high or low functioning sociopath cause I have not yet tried what sort of destruction I am capable of, I do know I am capable great destruction.
    I read pretty much all the posts here and including the entire article. I have studied counselling (BSc Hons), I am capable of manipulating anyone I know or have come across, deception, lies, made up stories, manipulation of famous quotes by famous people comes natural to me, its like I have pre-functioning lie producing factory in my mind, Do I always lie? well read on.
    SO FOR THE REASON OF MY POSTING THIS COMMENT HERE:
    is less to brag about it all and more with may be there should be our side of story.. I am a 29 year old men, I am 6ft tall, fairly built and may be slightly attractive in traditional standard, I have an IQ of 167, I have slept with over 110 Girls/Women, I earn between 38-43k (British Pound), I am kind, helpful towards people I know or care about, I am a extremely patient and a great listener But at the same time, I am blunt, harsh and always very straight to point as long as I am not hurting someone’s feeling with my words or actions, who doesn’t deserve it, and mostly the smartest guy in the room but I prefer being quite and observant, most of you who are reading this probably already calling me or thinking I am an arrogant arse hole, but I am being as honest and forthcoming as possible to perhaps explain a little bit of our (sociopaths) side of the story,
    Here are the things I don’t do:
    I am not blood sucking freeloader, I do not and never have been in any relation romantic or otherwise to rip people off for financial gain.
    I have not been in long term relation for 3 years therefore I do have a lot of one night stand and I often go out purely seeking pleasure BUT it does not mean I break hearts or cheat on girls, If I am in a relation with anyone, even for two weeks I would not sleep or have affair with another girl. I treat girls with utmost respect even if I don’t appreciate their views and ways, for instance we all big-headed twats, think they deserve all the happiness in the world while being harsh, cruel, racist or offensive towards anyone average looking or below average, yet I still treat them like princesses and tolerate their behavior and thats not only for sex but thats just the moral code I live by (I know pretty fucked up don’t worry I know)
    I like to think I am good friends as all my friends know I am always there for each and every one of them, in fact any feud or rivalry of a friend I take it very personally, if someone screw around or hurt any of my friend or family, I would go to great length to hurt them back in ways there never could possibly imagine (given they deserve it, if my friend\family are at wrong then I’d likely not do that)
    I am capable of reading almost imminently what sort of person I am talking to in matter of minutes, I do use that to my advantage whether I am looking for a partner to have fun with, going for a small business venture or simply any activity on social life, for instance: picking up a girl in mall/party/clubbing I do learn as much as I can about them which comes natural from body language. dressing style, accent, confidence and their social skill, all of which help me determine, what would she be interested in, what she would like or not like etc, don’t get me wrong I do get rejected but in over 100+ attempts in last couple of years alone I have only been rejected less than 20 times and out of those 20 times I manage to still convince 18 of them to either give out their number or take mine. My point is again not bragging but simply stating out the fact what I am capable of YET I don’t change my accent, become someone that I am not, I do not lie about my profession, I do not pretend to be rich even if I know that something a girl would be interested in, I also don’t as recently heart broken man to gain sympathy or win a soft corner.
    like I said and mentioned twice I do not hurt people for fun, take advantage of them financially or simply because I can, in fact I have a Robin Hood complex sometime I find myself getting involve in other people business if I know I can help them.
    I am capable of empathy but not towards everyone, I am twisted so I do not take anyone’s word for anything, even a most humble gesture to me is suspicious and I am always looking for reasons behind someone kindness etc. In fact I am most twisted person I have ever met and in fact I have been pretending to be normal pretty much all my life, acting as I am not as smart and dumb sometimes, letting people win arguments, and everything to stay under the radar, as except friends, family and some colleagues I am just an ordinary guy, to whom who truly know what I am capable of I am The Mentalist and the problem solver no matter the issue (though half the time I have no clue how to help them)
    I probably can go on and share few experiences and venture of my life but I am probably being irritatingly boring to most of you, therefore I will quit my life story. but after reading the article where it says almost ALL OF US SOCIOPATHS are extremely dangerous (I agree), always lying, deceptive, we do not have remorse or incapable of apathy, thats something I do not agree upon as not all of us are just selfish blood sucking twats with means to just do harm.
    I am subscribing to this page and article with email alert so I wanna offer if any of you have any question, curiosity, confusion or simply wanna know something about me or my kind (lol) please just reply to me here I am willing and would like answer any and all queries, question etc.
    TO ADMIN: Perhaps I can make my own topic/article/post to offer people to understand us better and answer any relevant questions.
    Sid

    1. What makes you think that you are a sociopath? If you are a sociopath and therefore a compulsive pathological liar why would anyone believe your answers? What disturbs me, is that you are a counsellor? Therefore your clients think you are helping them with empathy. But realistically you can only fake empathy. Respond to people by telling them what they want to hear, by mirroring them reading them accurately. While you might be able to offer upr .. how fake is that? Can you really be with the client? Sociopaths in counselling setting I find disturbing :(

      1. Your mind is pretty limited and lack the ability to truly grasp how the sociopath mind works, had I known you in real life and after knowing that if you have a remote idea about who sociopaths are and their capabilities, would in million years I ever tell you what I am.
        You have been hurt by one therefore your acceptance will remain like a narrow pipe line for everyone who disagree with your views, please accept my apology I am not calling your arrogant or ignorant for that matter but simply a emotionally hurt which is the hardest to jump back from. Anyhow enough of your views analysis. I am pretty sure you will happen to disagree with me entirely .
        Its a clandestine way of life, you might never see another sociopath ever telling you about his ability or disability whatever you call it, I am just trying to emphasize on the point where we are made out to be the monsters (rightly deserve in most cases) but there are those of us who are not fit onto your criteria of Sociopaths lore.
        We dont have secret societies, or panty sniffing clubs in secretly organize locations (no offence) we are human beings and like everyone else we have choice between to do or not to do.
        I have a best friend quite possibly the smartest friend I have and 4th smartest person I personally know in this world, he has been the player from his teenage hood till now and have slept with more woman than I can count (that I know of) he cheats, he does one night stand, lie and does all kind of shameful act for sexual pleasure but he is the most loyal friend all his friend would say, served in military, loves his family and is one of the most helpful human being I know, my professional opinion is he has Hypersexual Disorder (HSD) but does that make him Sociopath cause he lies for Sex?
        I am being a counselor or shrink is disturbing for you, do you know any counselor or psychiatrist in real life, does it not gives you chills up your spine when they are staring at you, looking right through you, analyzing every word you say! So its amazing how you know something about sociopaths and not have a basic clue which profession most sociopath work prefer, not talking about bloodsucking low life con artists but enlightened and competent kind. The university I got my HCPC degree from I was the youngest student there, and knowing who I am I can read my kind in 2 minutes conversation at any topic, and what I learned was almost each and every individual in that class if some sort of sociopath or in making.
        So next time you see a counselor for any purposes or you have one as a neighbor perhaps, read the clear sign and you will understand us better, we are not all lying cheating and deluded lost souls.
        I did expect you to be smarter though, sadly your too narrow minded yet, with high hopes more you will learn about us more clear you will become how flawed you were at your conclusion.
        Ps: most people who read or comment on your blog are possible victims, undetermined whether or not their supposed deceptor is even a sociopath, so think of it like a studying a rare leopard found only in K2 Mountain while sitting in Mojave Desert. (excuse any typos or mistakes I may have made, I didn’t have time to read through all before posting as my mind currently is all over the places.)

      2. Most people who write here are victims as the site is called ‘dating a sociopath’ so would think that would be fairly obvious. You are right partially, it is alarming that socios work in psychiatric/counselling field. Although not surprising at all. After all they are good at reading people.

        With regard to my ignorance, is it ignorance if so many victims understand it and relate? Perhaps a victims view of a situation is different to a sociopaths?

        All sociopaths lie. …… You saying that they don’t is merely an illusion.

      1. Someone who has no guilt empathy remorse or shame. Just no conscience. That nagging feeling in the back of your mind. The need to put things right. The feeling bad if you do something to hurt someone else. Just thought for someone else rather than your own needs.

      2. The first five things all fit into the same catagory and with deception and lies, well, you can’t have one without the other. So, to put it bluntly they have no conscience and are deceptive?

      3. That was a stupid reply. Mentally, not physically. Human characteristics have been taught to us, unlike other species who have instinctive characteristics. Since you need a more explained answer, what are our instinctive characteristics? The popular vote on sociopaths describe them as subhuman. If their characteristics match ours, then I would not reccomend treating them treating them like monsters, no matter how disrespectful they may be. Doing so makes you just as bad.
        Might I add, anyone who has pro probably views them as a sociopath, as they do you. I don’t mean you or and direct comment, I am just making a general observation.

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