I am about to write some posts based upon real life dialogue of sociopath seduction.
When I met the sociopath back in 2011 he didn’t know he was one. Neither did I.
For some reason I have most of the communication between us from when we first met. Emails text and facebook logs. He liked to have things written down. Really quickly (within a day) We moved from dating website to Facebook. This correspondence is from Facebook chat and is just the beginning of analysis of what they say and how they give themselves away.
His words to me written 18th December 2011. We had just ‘met’
“I am believe it or not quite an intelligent person. I come across as being intelligently believable but people don’t expect me I don’t think to have that ability in me as I am very private and internal about my achievements. I always like to help someone better themselves. ..because something I have done makes it easier for them”
Can you see what he was doing here? He was giving himself away. Telling me that he is more ‘hidden’ than people believed . It was this that gave him the head start over people as they didn’t suspect him. People do not ‘suspect’ him as he doesn’t seem capable. On the outside he is helpful, caring and charming. You think that he will help you to achieve your goals. The reality is very hidden (private and internal).
Oddly in the very beginning I said to him that I was honest and didn’t like dishonesty.
“only thing is people aren’t honest. So later down the line it all falls apart because they have tried to be something they are not. What’s the point in that?”
“You are honest and that is a big step in anyone’s life and yes people will prey on your honesty and rip you apart as I and you definitely know. But sometimes someone or even some people come along that don’t want to hurt you in anyway. They just want to make you happy and love you”
Thia statement was very interesting. Already he is telling me how people prey on your honesty and vulnerability. He is reflecting back to me my concerns. He also says at the end the reinforcement statement SOME PEOPLE DON’T WANT TO HURT YOU IN ANY WAY THEY JUST WANT TO MAKE YOU HAPPY AND LOVE YOU.
You will also note how he says being honest is a big step suggesting that it was a step he hadn’t quite reached yet.
Can you see how they tell you exactly what they think you want to hear?
Truth was he would be the biggest liar I had ever met in my life. Yes he preyed on my honesty and ripped me apart.
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