One thing that a sociopath feels is ‘dupers delight’. A sociopath doesn’t feel too many emotions. He can feel lots of things, anger, narcisstic rage, jealousy, paranoia, if it’s a feeling. But they don’t actually feel real feelings like other people feel. Its kind of an empty space.
Because of this sociopaths struggle with boredom and ways to get excitement. One way that they can get a rush is by manipulation and deceit, and deliberately conning someone. This is called dupers delight. The rush that they feel when they are conning someone who they feel is more stupid, and can’t see through their lies.
When found out, they do not feel bad for hurting you and they do not feel remorse or shame. Instead they feel a rush of endorphins, which for a sociopath is described as dupers delight.
This can be addictive. An addiction to experiencing that rush of endorphins. And so, they repeat this behaviour again, and again.
This is one of the reasons why sociopaths cannot be rehabilitated. They cannot change, because they feel empty inside, they become addicted to this rush of adrenaline that they feel by conning someone. To them, it is your own fault for being so stupid, and so gullible, and if you take them back, they will only do the same thing over again, thinking you must be even more stupid than they thought you were originally.
They will make empty false promises, that they will change, that they have changed. But these are merely just words. A sociopath lives on words. Unfortunately, there is rarely any correlation between words and actions.
34 thoughts on “Dupers delight and the joy of conning”
i agree….full of empty words…their actions speak louder than their words as you give them more chances
OMG my ex-gf was exactly like that. We had been together for 6 years and every single time…… she made me false promises of things that she wouldn’t do it again, but yet she did it again like 100 times. And to think I was a kind person to kept on forgiving her and I stayed with her, but it was awful. I’d rather be with a psychopath if I had the choice. At least they know how to apologize. Being with a Sociopath was the worst thing in the world. They’re even worse than a cheater!!!! At least cheater would admit their fault. Sociopath would cheat on you and tell you that if they’re cheating in front of your face……. then it’s not cheating. It’s impossible with these people!!!! Waste of time. They would looked at people up and down (checking people out in front of your face) and tell you that they’re “studying” people. No matter what they do to you……….. it’s never their fault. They’re always in the right and you’re always in the wrong. They have no morals and conscience or integrity. So embarrassed of my Ex-Gf behavior.
MEL…. Be proud you know… She is a DODO Head!!!!
a psychopath is the next “step” after a sociopath – they are even les feeling and even more dishonest and dangerous. Psychopaths do not feel remorse or even fear!
Please educate yourself a bit more about the Cluster B-types before you get into serious trouble. Believe me, you definitely DO NOT want to be in the vincinity of a psychopath!
I never understood until now, the source of supply I was for him.
I don’t have $$$, property, etc…. I am ‘bait’ for him.
Being almost 20 years younger & beyond my control, exotic looking, I land him not only horny, lonely, jealous/envious women but the praise from other men. When I confront him with proof of his lies/cheating behavior, his reply is always “Oh come on, seriously, do you really think I would be with her over you?”
It has taken me YEARS to figure this out thanks to you and this amazing site. I have no more years to live as ‘bait’.
Yes I feel you. My ex would also cheated on me and made me feel like I was the crazy one. She always said “You’re paranoid”. Or “You’re insane”………. eventhough I had proof of her cheating with dofferer people. She still denied it and make me feel like I was a jealous freak when in reality……. I was being normal like any normal would feel if they’re being cheated on in a relationship. I felt mad and betrayed. It’s ok because karma would get to her and one of thesa days……. she would date a Sociopath without knowing it.
Got out of 7 month relationship this morning and found this site today. OMG is all I can say. This post made me laugh out loud and have to share.
One evening she gloated about how she would intentionally insult the ‘dumb’ coaches at her kids school by making comments that went over their head. At the time I thought it was odd that she had no remorse for being downright mean. She actually said they deserved it for being so dumb. The look on her face was one of pride or victory. Now it all makes sense! Glad I got out so soon.
Yes… at the 6 month mark. I knew something was wrong w/ my girlfriend… My intuition told me to get out… but I didn’t and paid the price.
Listen people. I know we live in a world that loves logic and reason… but there’s a part of us that always knows. When you get the feeling that someone is not good for you… trust it. It’s generally correct.
I can’t believe I’m back.. This site helpede so much the 1st time round – then… He came back! He was so sorry and vowed to spend the rest of his life making it up to me ?!?! Anyway.. Obviously it was all rubbish lies and now he has the opportunity to smirk at me again .. I feel like a dead rat and him the cat just tapping me with his paws to see if there is any life left in me 😦 I hate myself
I know its easy to say, but please don’t hate yourself. They are good at selling you the story how they are are ‘just about’ to ‘recover’ and how things will be so different this time.
But its in their brain, and the same thing repeats. This isn’t a reflection on you. I expect that this time around you have learned more that you didn’t know before. This will help you to keep stronger, and the quit wont be quite as bad as it was the first time.
Welcome back x
I thought my ex was ‘zen’. I do remember a couple of things though. I remember whne we were friends he sent a text to a mutual friend kind of like a sarcastic text to test her.At the time I didnt think much of it.The other thing was before we got together he said he knew he liked me as he would tease me on things like i didnt know the name of flowers etc (he was home educated so pretty much knew everything.at the time i thought ‘actually potentially further down the line that could be trouble.But he was so nice for the next year that I didnt think again of it. We had long distance so when I finally visted him after 6 months he had changed and hia ‘zen’ manner was so zen that he didnt understand when I was upset,or if I said something it was never interesting enough. I noticed that sometimes he smiled if I was jealous over a girl or smiled when he said something upsetting. It was very weird!
Ha. Heard “words” for 4 of the 6 years!!!!!! The first 2 years I didn’t know they were just words or he was still on his best behavior. He tried, hard, that’s for sure, finally his true self came out and we had a new baby when it did. The only signs the first 2 years were jealousy and self harm, (punching himself in face), or crying on cue, which at first, seemed like genuine tears. I bought that bullshit many times, so passionately sorry, loving and apologetic! Sometimes, even now, I want to believe, but I don’t and I would never let him know that! I let it go in one ear and out the other. Told him numerous times he was a fool if he thought I would believe 1 word that comes outta his mouth!!! Broke EVERY promise he’s ever made… and I mean EVERY ONE of them! From getting a job to coming home at night!!! Oh and the best one of all, “Shiny rings in your future baby”!!! Towards the end I would just get so angry, angry with myself really, I couldn’t take it, I couldn’t cry much anymore so all that hurt turned to anger and though I directed it at him, (the reason he said he couldn’t be with me or why he’d stay out all night, was because I was so mad all the time), and he would ask me, why can’t you just be nice to me”?and I would say, “apparently you have ALL the nice you need elsewhere”! Why should I be nice to the person who took everything good from me and gave me things that were unhealthy, mean, meaningless “leftovers” as I called them!!!!!
It was when the “party was over”, that he would cry for me, beg me to forgive him, there were times at the end where I said nothing, I was indifferent, even a few times I was sweet as pie, forgiving, loving, just to see what he would do and he did the same thing, left me night after night, home alone, broke, with our child, sometimes for days!!! I knew it didn’t mater what I did, if I was sad, mad or happy, he was treating me poorly, because I let him. That’s when enough was enough, my daughter didn’t need her family together if this is what her family life was going to be! She needed stability! She needed to know faithfulness and honesty, not that this was acceptable behavior from a man, even if that man was her daddy!!!! Poor example I was being by staying, and he was being by not staying!!! Some things just can’t be, no mater how much you wish, want or think you need it, running for my life is what I finally did, and though I don’t regret a lot, the very end of it all, was my most losing time, and no-one should allow a man, or woman, to take them into the ground!! Run before you lose everything, like I did!!!! Starting over at my age has taken it’s toll on me, both financially and especially emotionally!!!
I am going through a divorce right now as we speak. My sociopathic husband of five years left me no other choice but to leave. I chose to live alone and heal myself. He cheated on me with several prostitutes he also cheated on me with his ex. I was full of narcissistic supply. All the clothes and all the Nikes he wears are all from me. I took him on so many different trips. I did so much for him I take his kids in and played mommy to them take care of them went to their parent teachers conference is to come to school pick them up did the homework. I’m a bikini competitor and I used to be a dancer. When I met him he was so charming and so good-looking I fell in love with him that same week I knew that I would marry him. He said the same thing about me. But the lies started that very moment I met him when he only told me he had one kid and five months later I found out he had it a six-month-old as well. He constantly lies about doing drugs cheating on me things that go on at work he can’t tell the truth to save his life. I finally took a stand. I’m very attached to him and I love him. But I must move on, I tried to a year ago and went back to them. The house is mine so he left today I finished packing his stuff and his kids stuff. I have an appointment with the divorce attorney Thursday. Since he knows it’s over he is become so mean evil disrespectful and inconsiderate. He doesn’t act like a normal person would after screwing up their marriage over prostitutes. He had everything with me and now he’s lost it all. I have to MoveOn.
I broke up with a sociopath a year and two months ago (after just 3 1/2 months with him). It started so wonderfully and I thought I met a truly kind (and yes, nice looking) man, the love of my life. But, after a great start, it degenerated into a continuous game of 1 + -1=0, and/or bait and switch. For example, one time he gave me the choice of (1) going to dinner at his home (supposedly his mother invited me), and/or he would bring a dinner to my home after work. I chose to eat at his home. After, while sitting together on his couch cuddling and watching TV, he accused me of trying to seduce him, and then when I was leaving he scolded me for accepting the dinner invitation and said I should have chosen option 2 (the meal being delivered to my house). I told him that in the future to only say what he meant – to play it straight.
I hoped it was just a bad night for Mr. Wonderful, but this sort of behavior continued in so many ways. It was mind boggling – a never-ending bait and switch, at times surreal. There were also numerous minor lies, and even now I find out about even more lies. There was also the drama he instigated. He was a master at making other people his puppets for humiliation, and was also embroiled in a lengthy legal battle. At the end I was subject to two screaming tantrums. He asked me to move in with him one morning- I said “no.” He then distanced himself from me by day’s end. He works for a local town in a role that is normally well-respected, but this man is not a nice guy. He plays the hero, but has an underlying contempt for the people he helps. I suspect him of doing worse things to others – beyond what he did to me, but only witnessed suspicious behavior – not enough for proof. I just don’t agree with forgiving people who have no remorse, and my counselor has been supportive of that. Socios rape others emotionally. You have to get strong; turn the anger in to a lesson learned; use the lessons learned to protect yourself from the socio or others like them; and know that someday, somehow, their actions will catch up to them.
When you forgive you help to release yourself from the captivity that the other person held you under. It allows you to clear your mind of bad memories and move on with your life. Forgiving does not mean you must take the person you have forgiven back, or mean you can’t warn others about them. Forgiving will free YOU in so many ways.
I believe this too Tom.
This makes so much sense!
Are you going to write a blog? You really should!! Its good to get it out of your system.
My sociopath told me that he adopted his son as a single man whilst making a documentary in Armenia and seeing this child born! Lies, lies and more lies!! Married a ‘friend’ to give his child a mother. What a load of crap! It is obvious that this child is their biological child. He is still married to the wife……is it possible that he is only a sociopath to me? And the wife is well treated??
Did you think when the lies came out – omg? How could you say this? It was OBVIOUS that the truth would have to come out in the end…. they must know this. But they get SO caught up in the lie, it snowballs and becomes bigger and bigger. Until – they ARE the lie.
If he was cheating on his wife with you. Then NO she isnt being well treated
Yep. Describes my narcissistic ex gf to a tee. She loved doing that. What a sicko. I believe she would rather con and cheat someone out of $100 than that person just give her $200 from the heart. Oh,she would take the 200 all right. But no head rush. Not like when she CONNED someone out of it. And when she duped someone-usually me-she would always get that smirk on her face. Someone called it the ‘sociopathic smirk.’ Good term for it. Like ‘ha ha I got 1 over on you,sucka!’ Like I said,what a sicko. Hard to believe people like that really exist.
I know…. and they do get off on it!
I had no idea he was married! I found that out afterwards! I was devastated that he had lied to me!
I ended my relationship with a sociopath about one month ago. I had an idea that he might be a pathological liar but after reading this website (thank you) I have realized and confirmed that he is a sociopath. It is hard to accept the reality that this person you think you know, you actually do not know at all. And I believe that it is the most heartbreaking things to accept – because this also means that if you attempt to rekindle or allow that person the chance that they request back into your life, you are putting your heart into an empty vessel. How can anyone knowingly put their emotions and energy into 1) A Stranger and 2) A Liar ?
Luckily, I have had some similar instances on a much smaller scale in the past, so I was able to have a clearer understanding of the pattern of these types of characters. I was with K for about 10 months. In the 4th month he said ‘I love you’ and by the 8th month he wanted to move in together. I met him online, and even from the moment I met him he began his story telling and lies. For example, he told me he had tattoos that weren’t on his body. Silly of me I know, but I just figured in my mind that it was a white lie – he had told me he had a big ego – so I figured ‘well, it’s an online site, he didn’t know that we would connect the way we did, so maybe he told a white lie” and I dismissed it. However, as the relationship progressed he would often make empty promises, about having tickets to a show, or making plans to go on a vacation, or buying me something I never asked for, all of which having the same result – I would never hear about these things again and it was as if it just disappeared. The last straw was when he forced me to agree to let him take me on a vacation for my birthday (I wanted him to use the money for things he needed, and do something smaller for my birthday in the area) – and then he completely never brought it up again. Like, he had a 2 hour argument with me about this, I gave in and accepted, and then he never said another word about it.
He lied about other things, like having a car. Within the ten months I knew him, I saw this supposed vehicle about 4 times at best. I live up the block from a train station, so he would take this train to me every weekend over the course of our relationship – always saying that he just ‘didn’t like to drive.’ Around the same time that my birthday was coming up, all of a sudden he got in an accident and his car had to be towed. And (this is when it gets funny), that same week, guess what! His bank account had fraudulent activity! Apparently ‘someone else Deposited a fake check into his account and also withdrew the funds.’ Anyway, then he tells me he hopes that I “Won’t be upset if he doesn’t have a lot of money in the next few weeks’ since his account was frozen and his entire income was going into the frozen account to pay for the negative balance. Honestly, all of this was just becoming too much.
I asked him for proof of these things – he gave me a screenshot of his bank account that said it was frozen and asked for my apology! I told him it’s a good start, but what about the car? He told me F* out of here and then I explained to him very civilly how I felt about this questionable activity – and then with his lack of response I told him I would talk to him later.
He’s a coward, I never heard from him again, not even on my birthday, I contacted him to let him know how wrong he was for that after that fact, and he cowardly told me I deserved someone better, ‘He was trying so hard to convince me he was this person but he wasn’t actually trying to be this person’ and that it spun out of control. THE WEB OF LIES WE WEAVE! Then had the nerve to say, “and if I asked for another chance?” When I told him I wasn’t interested, he told me I probably already replaced him. And then blocked me! Like a child .. and a coward … and the little b” I now see him to be.
The messed up part about it all is that I would have accepted him without a car, I would have even maintained some respect for him if he just admitted to his lies outright and accepted the responsibility instead going into silent mode the way he did. After reading this website I now see that all of his actions were to manipulate and control. I believe that the lies go deeper than I can ever know. Even if I were to take him back, there would be more lies and I would never know the truth. And with that I must accept him leaving my life, for the better of my mental health.
The one thing that saddens me is that I had a serous back injury during our relationship – one to the point of extreme pain and immobility. He was there for me every weekend, when I woke up screaming in pain, helping me walk, helping me stand up, washing dishes for me; all because I couldn’t do these things myself. I don’t think I could have gotten through that time in my life without him. I was so depressed and limited in life. He was truly there for me in a way that no friend or family member was. I suppose this contributed greatly to showing him a weakness in my that he could prey on ( I also realize this after reading this site – thank you so much).
I deeply apologize for the unnecessary details and pettiness of this entire story line. I recognize it fully. Unfortunate, this was my life. It’s been only a day since he blocked me. For some reason I have a lingering feeling that I have not heard the last of him. However, I know better than to think a conversation could ever reveal the answers to the questions I still hold in my heart. When you deal with a sociopath or a pathological liar, you will never understand the true reasons behind their behaviors. Attempting to is a wasted effort that I will not participate in.
I have just been in a 4 month relationship roller coaster with what I now believe from reading the signs a true sociopath! He has brought me to the point where I don’t even know if I am coming or going. There were signs but when we were together I got lost in his words and promises of forever. The last incident of him just up and leaving without a word was just this last weekend and it’s been 48 hours since I have heard from him….I have to stay away for my own piece of mind. I now know he will not change for anyone. I have always been the one to be pursued by men and with him I feel I lost all dignity by taking him back every time he would say “Nope we’re not done” and “Everything will be ok you will see” etc etc. He had no intention of finishing what he started(happily ever after). Thank God it was a short time, I have no idea how his ex- wife put up with it for 17 years. Monday through Friday he was so perfect, say all the right words, beg to see me….I wouldn’t let him see me to often, I was on to him and wanted to keep some distance but emotionally I was attached. I have amazing friends who just don’t get why I get sucked in again and again…he hates my friends. This time I am gone for good!
I heard those same words, too: “I’m not done with you yet”, “everything will be okay” etc.. etc…
I also experienced the sudden disappearances and the dreaded Silent Treatment.
My SP often acts really odd, and he can be painfully immature. Yet he has a very high position with the local government in a large city. I have NO idea how he can be so odd and indecisive and unreliable at home but excel at work (well, HE tells me that he is good at his job and he hasn’t been fired yet so I have to believe at least that part).
I have been trying to figure out what it is that he wants from me- he does not need money. It may be sex? I think I am able to keep him calm or de-stress him if he does get overwhelmed at work. I just don’t know.
he can, because he is high functioning. He can be whoever he wants to be. Mirroring others, and being what they want to see. He could just enjoy your company? if you are not experiencing loss, or get off on the control and hold he has over you. Do you live together?
be aware of one thing( and this is what I have figured out myself) : when your socio is making statements, most of the time the actual meaning is EXACTLY the opposite of what he is saying or writing.
Just a couple of examples from my own experience :
– ” I want to take care of you, your well-being and your health.”
Translation : “From now on you are going to be my caretaker. And if you dare to refuse to look after my every want and need or fail to live up to my expectations, you will regret it. Bitterly! ”
– ” I will always keep you safe and protected.”
Translation : ” Ha, I do not care about my own safety and take lots of risks every day. And you are so naive as to think I will care about yours?? LOL!”
– ” I will co-sign the loan for you and help you with the payments.”
Translation : ” Do not expect me to contribute much, if anything at all. I want to put my money aside on a secret account that you do not even know exists or blow it away on anything I will consider useful.”
– ” I am ready to accept your lifestyle.”
Translation : ” Don´t worry, I will make you quit your job and stay with me all days long as I have nothing to do and no interests, so you are going to entertain me all the time. You will give up your leisure time activities and seeing friends – now I am your greatest leisure time activity and your biggest friend!”
– ” I only did it for you.”
Translation : ” You are and responsible and guilty for what I have done. I have sacrificied a lot, so now I expect you to return the favour ( in my case socio travelled 8,300 kms to be with me – I did not beg or force him, just the opposite : I did not want him to come so early in the relationship – after only chatting with him for 2 months and online. He was very pushy and could not wait.)
Be very cautious and not fall for this trap! 🙂
I met my ‘Knight In Shining Armor’ a.k.a. my Sociopath a few years ago. We went on our first date and fireworks flew (or so I thought). The very next day he was at my front door, ready to take me and my little kids to the carnival. I felt surprised that this man, had just shown up. Afterwards, he came at me hard, texting, coming by, spending the night early on, wishing me a “Happy Day” EVERY DAY! Our conversations were never normal, like not two-sided, or back and forth. He was super high strung, always very full of drama, could never sit still. I would often catch him in lies, and got more than one message from a female, telling me he was telling them ‘He loved them.” He could also lie his way out of a paper bag. He was in the middle of a divorce when I met him, and was proposing to me before it was even final.
I finally wised up to his lies and dumped him, and in turn embarrassing him and hurting his fragile ego.
He kept contacting me periodically or my friends and family.
Eventually I missed the excitement of him. So I allowed him back into my life, based on a new image he had created. He told me everything I wanted to hear! Completely became who I always wanted to be with. He was taking pictures in the house he had purchased us, in my dream state of CA, I was going to get to stay home and not have to work. He got a black Mercedes and was making business deals. All WAY TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE! I wasn’t completely fooled this time. I knew who I was dealing with, or so I thought?
One day after I sent him a text, telling him how I planned on getting my car out to CA. The very next text was him telling me how he got a text from the guy I “had been” seeing, and that he had seen us together and I was never to contact him again!” Which made ZERO sense????? My friends, family, and me were immediately blocked!
Turns out this professional Sociopath, was engaged to a wealthy business woman, who drove a black Mercedes and made business deals regularly. The house he was sending me pictures of, was their new house. He took on both her personality when he was with me.
I ended up sending her all the incriminating texts he had been sending me. Hoping she would be spared. Buuuut, he must have spun some kind of special Tony Trimble lie, to get himself out of it. Days later, I saw their pic of FB. Fake image and all.
And another one falls victim to the Trimble Machine of lies!
Wow.. they really do the most outrageous things. Unbelievable.
So I married a Sociopath,…..a female sociopath…a narcissistic, self-centered, egotistical, lying, manipulitive,cunning, rotten-to-the core, merciless, self-absorbed, emotionally abused, playing-the-victim, using-the system sociopath……and had two children with her….She jokingly told her family as she introduced me while pregnant,…”meet my future ex-husband”,..only she wasn’t kidding…..One thing about a Sociopath, they enjoy ‘setting you up’,..They cunningly and purposefully plan things ahead and actually let you know what they are going to do to you before they do it..They throw clues and hints at you,(so they can snicker later)…but by the time you figure it all out,..it’s too late,….then they lavish in ‘Duper’s delight’….She was actually bragging ahead of time to let everyone know,..I was only temperary,..and this psychopath was carrying my baby at the time,..and this was weeks before the wedding….It only went downhill from there real quick for me…..She controlled every aspect of our lives….Because we had a baby girl,..and she knew I loved the baby,..and knew I would never get custody,…She knew she had the upper hand in the marriage….Until, of course,..she accidentally got pregant again.(in her eyes)..(and all the time I’m not realizing yet I am being victimized)…Now,..I was gonna pay for getting her pregnant a second time…….She started going around town telling everyone she was in an abusive relationship,.(that I was beating on her),…(setting up the divorce),…She already planned on getting all the income tax money…She got a part-time job third shift so I had to get up every two hours with the baby…(I worked first shift full time)…..Anyway,..it wasn’t long before I found a note on the table,…”I will be camping with the girls for the next four days, (the ‘KIDS, actually infant and toddler) will be at my mothers….Well, when she came home four days later,..I found in the hamper, 4 brand new pairs of silk panties…..all cumstained…..she went camping alright….So I called her at work and told her I have all the evidence I need, (never mentioned what it was, and I hung up),..20 minutes later she came thru the door and ran to the hamper……Busted. Well,..getting caught pisses off a Psychopath,….you have humiliated them,….Now you are gonna pay for the rest of your life…..And 15 yrs later,..I can tell you,..I have been paying the price and it never ends, not until the kids are gone……She was doing drugs third shift at a nursing home…(I found out thru co-workers)…Well,..On a Saturday, she slept in ALL day, I made the babies their breakfast, lunch, and dinner,….while she slept,….So My son started crying while I was feeding my daughter supper,…My crazy sociopath got up out of bed after sleeping ALL day and came out in a Rage….She yelled and screamed,.I’m not putting up with this FUCKING SHIT anymore….She said she was leaving and taking the ‘KIDS’ with her……I was in shock….I said no your not,..and she left out the door,…..So I put the kids to bed after a little while and fell asleep on the couch,…Next thing ya know,…Cops came in and arrested me….My sociopath had gone to her friends house and sat there and rubbed a mark on her forehead with her knuckle,…and then went to the police station and told them I had put it there……..Well it only gets uglier for me…I suffered thru a PFA for a week before she realized she wasn’t gonna be a mother……(this is all after she had a breakdown and had to overnight stay at the hospital)…She was so confused and wanted OUT of responsibility….and I was gonna carry the burden for the rest of the childrearing years with no help,..nothing but drama whenever she came around….in 15 yrs my kids only saw their mother every 4 yrs,(mostly)..but every single time there was trouble for me when she came around,…it was only to uproot my house….she actually walked into the Masters with a cast on her foot she got at CVS or some other place,…making like she could not work to pay support..(had no paperwork from doctor)…she said she wanted to put the ‘kids’ up for adoption,.(told me that in private)..(which I replied never gonna happen)..(that is when she had me arrested)…She actually took pictures of my brother and cousin while they were sleeping and put fake lines (baking soda) on the table at some house they were all partying in and brought them into court making like it was my apt….I know it was her because I blew up the picture and she was in a mirror on the wall snapping the picture…..So she was doing drugs and then gonna make like I was the one doing the drugs…..and she set up people she herself was partying with…….I got custody of the kids…and she never complied with the court order to visitation….yet she would drag me back into court on a whim just to make a fool out of me….She did everything opposite of what she told the courts….She lied about everything to everybody…..She became a ‘Minister of God’ and put videos on youtube of her sermens……Her facebook is nothing but a wonderful display of her Godly life yet she is a drunken drug addict and abuser who desterted her family…….She remarried a man whom served 2 years in prison for ‘beating her’ and her mother supposedly…..then she went back to him after he got out…..only to divorce him,,..by the way,.she has a son from her high school sweetheart whom she deserted at the age of two,….she deserted mine at the ages of 1 and a half and 3…..So to continue,…her psyche consists of multiple personalities,…she can be anyone she wants one day or the next….she has no remorse and no mercy..she will spin a lie off her tongue and destroy your life in a New York minute….This woman had me so scared I was gonna be murdered in my own bathroom I put up 2 by 4 planks in the window to protect me from bullets while bathing……and yet the local police thought I was the threat due to her PFA should put out on me…She is a master at PFA and abuse settings…She is a master at playing the victim…..all the while plotting your downfall….My Sociopath was doing drugs with my boss behind my back,..and I was told sleeping with him…..And he was plotting against me at work……Sociopaths use your friends and family against you…..They are very very cunning…….She had both my parents thinking I was a user and abuser,….To this day my Father thinks I was the ‘evil’ one…..She tricked him while ‘setting up the divorce’….She told me I could go out for a bit to the club because I hadn’t been out in months,….Then she called my Dad and told him she had to work (she fucking lied),…and Sent him out to get that ‘no good bastard’….Well, we don’t speak to this day….all thanks to my sociopath……My sociopath snuck into my house and stole all my paperwork for court……My sociopath hired then fired a Public aide attorney and hired a paid lawyer leaving me defenseless during the divorce,.(I had to act as my own attorney because conflict of interest,..the PA already worked on her case)…it was a calculated move…planned ahead for the divorce……My sociopath planted about five pictures of my cousin and brother inside my apt so I would become familiar with the picture so when I was on the stand I would recognize the photos she planted and snapped illegally under fraudulent circumstances….That was another psychopathic sociopathic manipulitive and cunning as well as EVIL act she committed….How does one explain that shit?….and How Evil does one have to be to plan and execute that type of criminal activity?…These are extreme lengths to go to and by no means normal….The Judge looked at the pictures and shook her head and said,..”Desparate people do desparate things”….But why was she desparate,..she wanted to put the kids up for adoption?…and why was she fighting for custody at all?…My Sociopath had custody of the kids for the first five moths of separation,…during this time, she left the ‘BABIES’ home alone with her 9 year old son whom she had visiting her apt for three days….( I was under PFA, not allowed near her apt) while she went to the beach with ‘SOME GUY’…..I know this is fact because her cooworker came to court and testified..She was worried so she went to the apt and found my kids with diapers sagging to their knees…and my son was locked in the closet by her son for almost 24 hrs….Yet Her testimony was scratched because I failed as a PorSe lawyer to be able to ask her properly without being Objected to,..I kept leading the witness…..(so once again my sociopath escaped)..and was still deemed a ‘safe keeper’ or ‘fit guardien’,…which she was not….The sociopath is so cunning they seem to get out from under any accountability,….while making you accountable for their actions….She had me marked as the abuser,.while she was labeled the poor victim….in actuality,..i and the children were the victims….She moved to my hometown and that is how I met her,….I had no Idea of her background…On the day My sociopath told me she was pregnant, we were having lunch,….she handed me a paper from the doctor that said what to do and what not to do when pregnant,…..So as she read “do not drink coffee”, my sociopath sucked down a cup of coffee in moments….and as she read ‘Do not smoke” my sociopath lit up a cigarette……I fucking kid you not…..I give you my oath under God I am telling you the truth in these matters….I was not only perplexed by this I was astonished,..confused,…in dismal dismay….I could not fathom what was happening,….We went and took an inhome test and sure enough she was pregnant,..but I now believe she was trying to self-abort……(she later told me she had one abortion and didn’t want to go thru that again)…it just goes on and on,…I have seen and been thru so much just trying to raise my children for the past 17 yrs and I spent 90% of that time fearing My Sociopath……Even when she wasn’t around I always knew she would be back,…and guess what,…she came back this past October……She ruined my life,….she destroyed everything i worked for raising these kids just by influencing them…You know,…”they miss their mother”,.”.I’m your mother”…Everything’s funny,..everything’s easy,…do whatever you want mother….I am not shocked,…I knew she would be back in the end for one final fair swoop,…Only I thought it would be a little sooner, like age 12,..but nope,..My sociopath doesn’t want any responsibility,..so she’ll wait till they can do it all by themselves….She don’t have to do anything for them,..except let them do whatever they want……and promise them things they will never have……My sociopath is manipulitive…..very very manipulitive,…My sociopath is after their college funds..(it is willed to them by their pappy)…if he dies,…My sociopath is gonna take out a loan against the will……My sociopath called me early Oct after yrs of abusing me thru the courts and family and friends and begged me to come back,..even after being remarried and not seeing me for years at a time (I maybe saw her 10 times in 15 yrs a few minutes each time for visits)…So when she calls and askes to come back,..I know it means (i’m coming to get you!,.I’m coming to get the kids!)….Fear for your life,..your future,….something is about to happen,….and guess what…..something did happen,…a lot of things happened…My daughter uprooted herself,…she became highly unstable and had to be admitted,….later to which,…she insisted on moving with her mother,..(the hard way)……and not long after,..My Son has now uprooted himself and is now in her hands but she is trying to dump him off in the system…….She took advantage of their emotional problems and convinced them to rebel against me…..not listen to discipline,….and promised them a better life….and because they never had a mother full-time, or part-time for that matter,..they fell prey to her……My sociopath comes in the name of God yet does the work of Satan……My sociopath told me when she left me,…”I am gonna put you thru the ringer”,…..and let me tell you,…that sick evil rotten no good cold hearted sociopath did just that……Do you think it was because of the Silk panties?….I can tell you this,…the silk panties were not just one person or one nighters,…she went to an annual bikers rally down in Maryland which she attended every year and never wanted me to go to…..When I saw those panties,..I knew why…..My sociopath knew I wanted a family with a few children,..My sociopath used me to raise those children while she did nothing but enjoy life……My sociopath would do anything to get her way……My sociopath has to be one of the most EVIL rotten legal criminals of all time….and the system let’s the sociopath hop along merrily while the victims keep on falling prey with the help of the system….What can you do about a sociopath?…….Only one thing you can do,….educate yourself and you loved ones to recognize who they are gonna be with,…but the sociopath can stay under cover for years before being exposed….Mine didn’t take long,…she has me captive after the first child…..She is sick…I know,….some people keep their sociopath close to them,…so they can remain safe,…I can only thank God mine moved away for most of the time..I am lucky I had that time to do my job and raise the children to the age they are now,…I almost made….but I knew,…I just knew she was gonna be back,…it was only a matter of when…and How…..Well,…communication was always open,.(internet)..and the sociopath takes advantage of anything at their disposal…..including Religion……Even Satan quotes scripture,…and so does my Sociopath……..I solemnly give oath that what I have written here is the Truth, TO THE BEST OF MY KNOWLEDGE SO HELP ME GOD……some of it I cannot prove,…but with a sociopath,..you are lucky if you can prove anything….
Demonic possession, depression and oppression is what you are dealing with. A sociopath has given themselves over to the devil. I believe you, because I have experienced the same thing, but once I found out I came back with a vengeance, and exposed them to everyone. You now have a certain set of skills that you didn’t have before, use them. Regardless, to how you may feel the relationship was meant to balance a imbalance. Usually, being to nice and putting others before yourself. So, you met the other end of the spectrum. Balance, and self love is what these entities are suppose to teach us. They also, reinforce your relationship or belief in God because now you know that EVIL really exist. They are soul less and have to parasite off people who still have one.