Sociopath’s fear two things
Sociopaths do not have much fear. This is simply because they do not really care about anybody but themselves. They thrive on finding your weaknesses and therefore exposing your fears (although you will not be aware of this in the beginning when you are disclosing your fears to him) when he is playing Mr Perfect, and Mr Soulmate and Mr love of your life.
But sociopaths do fear. They fear two things.
1. Fear of losing control
One of the biggest fears for a sociopath is to lose control. Press their buttons, take away their control, and you will see the mask slip, and the melt down occur. A sociopath needs to have control over everything and everyone. Oh yes, they will pretend to be very laid back, life and soul and relaxed, but underneath this exterior is a simmering desire for control. The one thing that will make a sociopath ‘lose it’ is for them to lose control. They will do everything to keep control.
2. Fear of exposure
The second thing that a sociopath fears is exposure. He fears that people will find out who he really is. He will go to great lengths to cover for himself. A sociopath is capable of compulsive pathological lying, manipulation and deception. He will go to great lengths and be very creative to hide his real true self.
If the relationship has finished, and he fears that you will expose him. He will do all that he can to instil fear into you, so that you will not expose him. He will tell lies about you, conduct smear campaigns, make threats against you, and will even stalk and harass you. He will make out to others that you are crazy. He does this so that if you do report him to others they will not believe you.
Sociopaths do not fear much. But they do fear those two things.
- Fear of losing control
- Fear of exposure
Things that the sociopath will do to prevent exposure
- Move to a different location
- Compulsive pathological lying
- Manipulation and deception
- Being secretive
- Wearing a mask, and creating a false persona
- Smear campaigns and lies against you
Things that the sociopath will do to prevent losing control
- All of the above and (additionally)
- Isolate you
- Feed false information
- Gaslight you
You need to be aware of these two things. Because he will go to great lengths to ensure that he does not lose control, or get exposed for who he truly is. He will not care who is hurt in the process. Protecting himself, and his own needs, is most important of all. A sociopath only truly cares for his/herself.
Why do sociopaths fear losing control?
The sociopath fears losing control, as it is the one thing that keeps him focused. Because the sociopath has a lack of life plan and goals in his own life, he needs to control your life. Remember that the sociopath sees YOU as the source for supply, ordinarily a person provides for themselves, and if they are generous, they provide for others too.
A sociopath is different to this. To him you are the source for his own supply, so he fears losing you, and therefore losing his supply. Which would mean that he would need to start again. This is why the sociopath tries to retain control at all costs. You will notice the things that he will do to keep control. He will say things which will hold you back, or keep you attached to him (see above), he has to keep control of you, to have any sense of control over his own life.
To the sociopath, they see you as somebody that they own. Not only, that they own, but additionally, you are a part of them. This is why they feel jealous, possessive, paranoid, because they fear losing control.
Why do sociopaths fear exposure?
Sociopaths fear exposure because they are accepted by people because of their charismatic charm. This is how they win people over, by manipulation, compulsive lying, and deception. They are chameleons and are capable of being anything to anyone, dependent on what the person wants. The sociopath is the master of illusion.
If you were to expose him, he would lose control, and wouldn’t be able to deceive other people, others would be suspicious of him, and if things were not to work out with you, he would find it more difficult, or more work, to find an alternative source for supply.
The sociopath likes the easy life. To live off of others, to get things for free, to have others do the work for him, and provide his supply. If you were to expose him, he would lie, and would discredit you, say anything about you, to remove the likelihood of being exposed. He would say things like ‘you are crazy’ or anything else that he could say, to show himself in a good light, and you in a bad one.
It is never a good idea to expose a sociopath. As the outcome would be lies, smear campaigns, and it would be your own good name which would be ruined.
It might be a temptation, if he has gone off with someone else, to expose him to the next person to ‘save her’ but this would likely backfire on you. As the sociopath, in defence of himself, would only say the most awful things about you. Whilst the sociopath does fear exposure, it is probably not a good idea to actually do this, as the sociopath would retaliate, it really would backfire on you and cause further damage to your own life.
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