Female sociopath

As I am female and hetrosexual, most of my post are written using the context of ‘he’ although as many male readers understand what I write can equally apply to female sociopaths.

Today I wanted to write a post about female sociopaths.

What is the difference between male and female sociopaths?

Honestly? The most obvious answer is SOCIETY. That is the biggest difference. Historically, men were expected to pay for everything. So, for the female sociopath  life was relatively easy. Which is probably why most respected pieces of work, say that there are less female sociopaths than male.

But lets look at this from a realistic point of view. From a historical point of view and from the role of men and women historically in society. Historically:

  • The man went to work and supported the woman
  • The man was the provider
  • The woman was known to be more manipulative and emotional than the man

This is a role reversal from men in society and what the expectations are of them. Men are supposed to be the breadwinners, to keep their woman.

If you look at it like that, female sociopaths have had it relatively easy. They are protected by society, and old fashioned values and what is expected from men and women in a relationship. Imagine that for a woman, her source of supply that she needs is a roof over her head, and money?

It is relatively easy to win that from a man. Nobody would bat an eyelid at it. After all, she is doing what keeps a man happy. Offering him sex, using him for his money. Getting free food and free accommodation. She is set up for life and has a free meal ticket.

Reverse this situation. The man moves in with a woman, fakes his credentials, and ultimately  the woman ends up paying for the man. This is more horrifying to society than what the female counterpart is doing. But is it really?

What do female sociopaths do?

  • All sociopaths have a high sex drive – so she will use sex as a tool to lure the man in
  • She will play victim to her past
  • She will be looking for a rescuer (to pay for her)
  • She will offer a bright and amazing future to her male counterpart

The sad truth is, both parties can be happy. A man sees it as his role to provide for his partner, or at least many have been brain trained historically that this is the right thing to do. The gaslighting, can just be viewed as ‘female manipulation’. Men are grateful to have a woman that constantly demands sex. And the male counterpart feels that he has a ‘trophy  wife’ on his arm. After all they are so charismatic, and get on with everyone, so popular, everyone else wants her….. men love to have something which is seen as ‘special’, something that other people want.

So, where does it all go wrong, with the female counterpart, and why is not reported as much?

It goes wrong when the female counterpart runs off with someone else. Or after she has the children kicks the man out, keeping the  house and children and everything in the house. If she is really lucky if she has done her homework well, she will also get maintenance payments from the man.

But nobody objects to this, after all this is what the man is supposed to do?

This is the main difference between male and female sociopaths. Society is what makes it different. Expectations within society of the male and female role. Of seeing the male as the provider, and the woman as nurturer, after all, we know that sociopaths can be very charismatic. And can play the role of  ’nurturer’ and ‘carer’ very well indeed.

The male feels that he has nobody to talk to about this. After all. He has been played, financially it has cost him a lot. And his ‘perfect woman’ is now off doing her own thing. Society encourages this.

If the male is upset and hurt, the female sociopath will use this against the male, he is the bitter ex. He should get over it.

It is more shocking when a woman has been conned by a male sociopath, as society sees it as unnatural. Afterall the man should be paying for the woman, treating her as a princess.

The female sociopath relies heavily on sex as a seduction and offering the trophy wife status to the male. Which males, wanting to impress buy….

There is little difference between the male and female types. This is why I write about sociopaths in general, and for ease of writing I use the word he. It is simply easier to write.

What do you think? Are there any males reading this? Do you agree with this? Or am I totally wrong?


277 thoughts on “Female sociopath

  1. I have spent five years asking the same question; what was the truth? Looking back I found a couple of things:

    1. They will blame people of things they actually do themselves. Watch out for the ‘I hate drama’ statement. Usually means they excel at it.

    2. You do feel incredibly exhilarated or sad when you normally do not feel these ways.

    3. ‘They get you’ and ‘never felt more connected’ are common. Mine was also that ‘I would have made sure you have that by now’. I thought that this was a soul mate then when she was no longer around I felt like that the person I put at such a value found me unworthy. (See the hijacking of dreams. This is not JUST a male thing.)

    4. There always seems to be a reason that they cannot do something; but that the inconvenience is unusual. You begin to realize that the ‘unusual’ is the usual. I now see this for what it was; she did not require anything more from me at the moment so to see me or be there for me was not necessary. You find that you are trying to be justified in their eyes.

    5. You feel like your soul is no longer good. I know I questioned my entire moral compass.

    6. Depression. Not necessarily sadness but apathy. Did that sporting event you lived for before seem to be unimportant now? Think about why those values have suddenly changed.

    I wound up being so very confused throughout the time I was around. I kept having the question as to whether it was real 30 years earlier then I found the same thing today.

    I came to a thought. If she told ‘the truth’ then would I really believe it? I know I would so want to. That led me to the next thought; could I discern the truth from her? Probably not.

  2. This is what I’m doing, and it is going out to approximately 200 of her facebook friends.

    I know she’s your friend, she’s also a monster, a genuine narcissistic sociopath, one who targets men, promises forever, and says things like you see here, followed by what you see later.
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    She had at least one other relationship going on while we were “planning” our wedding. To top it off, she used God, and my faith to manipulate from day 1. I know u don’t believe me, but I don’t care, because eventually someone is going to be willing to connect the dots. She approached me saying the Holy Spirit drew her to me, followed by 18 months of superlatively making forever promises, then 4 months of “unsaying” everything she said, and I hadn’t changed at all, because the whole of the 22 months she constantly said “I love you” “you’re such a great guy” “I know you really love me” She said God said you’re the one.

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    Along with “God made me specifically for you” :God made you specifically for me”, and while all this is going on she demands the most deviant depraved sex, both on skype, and when I flew from CA to OH 7 times in 16 months. She is incapable of normal human attachment, or monogamy, and she lied about her ex, as she lied to him, and told him 2 of the 3 kids were his, who actually belonged to one of the men she was regularly subjecting herself to in group sex settings, unprotected, all of her kids are from different men, and her ex husband doesn’t believe any of them are his. There is a reason her mom and sister were trying to get custody while she was in prison. She has everyone fooled, and it was only because I came forward about our double life, that she decided to toss me away like used tissue.
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    She doesn’t stop, I’m not even sure she could if she wanted to, but I’m going to stop her. She intentionally raised my stress b level to critical by blaspheming the God she says she loves so much. She doesn’t know God, because she has no conscience, she love bombs God, just like she love bombs all her targets to get them addicted to her. She cannot tell the truth, and everyone in her life is disposable. I can prove everything I say. When a person says “God told me _______” it is called rhema, but it has to line up with the Bible. She was giving God credit for saying the opposite of what the Bible says, and that is blasphemy. I’ve become friends with 2 of her exes, and will be hearing from a 3rd shortly. All the stories are basically the same, except for her husband, she married him, but was NEVER faithful, and constantly telling horrific lies about him, including saying he molested his kids, yet she said she didn’t report it. That’s because it never happened, but just as she’s told everyone I’m lying about congestive heart failure brought on by her intentionally raising my stress b for attention. I wish I was. She said the guy before me gave her hep b, or God did, but the fact is she contracted hep from sharing rigs shooting dope. she also is still using, not sure if she shooting, but I know she’s snorting norcos, subs, whatever she can get, and she guilted me out of my vicodin I was prescribed for dental work, yet she’s working towards a degree to counsel drug addicts. I don’t need to lie, my doctor’s haven’t given me a great prognosis. and I’m due for a heart attack anytime. The fact anyone could intentionally fake love and a future with someone, because it’s how they get their kicks is fucked up, but the fact the sociopath wants u dead so u can’t expose them is sick. Now she’s got other victims, in fact I hear she’s engaged, so u just watch if this is the case, how she goes from idealizing him, to questioning the relationship as far as ya’ll are concerned, but she’ll say nothing to him, while she begins telling ya’ll he’s either abusive or controlling, when in fact she has total control over everyone and everything in her life. It’s the only way she can make sure she’s not exposed. She surrounds herself with women less attractive, as she must always be the center of everything. I’ve seen her go from smiling horny girl into a raging lunatic because she’s trying to get her nut while on skype together, and one of those kids she’s left in the living room for 3 hours spilled something, or needs something.
    Here’s the thing, we can believe a virgin gave birth, we can believe a man was raised from the dead, we say we believe the Bible when it talks about demon possession, and we say we believe what the Bible says about wolves in sheep’s clothing, but when confronted with it, because we’re so sure we know this person, and they’re far too nice, and harmless to ever be anything like this; Is the devil thought to be wearing a cape, and have horns, and a red pointed tail, or is it like the Bible says; if possible even the elect would be fooled? She was horribly abused as a child, and blamed for the abuse, and sworn to secrecy. Her mom is a malignant narcissist, and I think u know about how justin got brain damaged, right? According to her, her dad used to actually punch her, when she was wanting only for daddy’s love, he’d punch her, and she said her mom would stand there and say; “you need to stop Richard, you’re going to kill her.” She said she remembers seeing the blood spray from her face across the floor. You can do it now, or you can do it later, but eventually someone is going to have to simply connect the dots. She says she’s on disability ssdi for bipolar/schizophrenic, WRONG, they don’t pay for that, and she would also be required medication by the state. There is no medication for anti social personality disorder, and is immediate grounds for SSDI, her good friend of many years, cindy said she’s an amazing liar, and this is because sociopaths have no conscience, and it’s when they tell the truth they’re uncomfortable. If u’ve known her long, u know she spent more time at hill top than not, I don’t know what she was like with people as a adolescent, but I know she’s always had a problem with authority, because she had behavioral conduct disorder, and this is the first sign of ASPD, she seduced her brother in law at 14, and others that know the whole dynamic in the family believe there was incestuous activity from early on, and the entire family history is shrouded in secrecy. She’s had problems with drugs, crime, and relationships her whole life, and she is incapable of forming normal attachments, and that is why she is able to go from God made me specifically for u. to “you are nothing to me.” and be unaffected, she cannot love. She is only capable of rage, jealousy/envy, and wanton lust, and can NEVER get enough, and this is especially true during ovulation and her period. She talks shit and maligns absolutely everyone in her life, including pastors she says she respects and looks up to. This also includes you Crystal. Whether it’s unprotected sex, running dope with a cook, driving too fast, juggling 3 or more relationships, passing off bad checks, she lives a life of risky behavior. She’s bragged to you, just as she has me about things she’s done, whether u realize it or not. Many times when she tells stories, as u know she loves to do, she’ll paint herself as a hero or a victim, when in fact she was the perp. As u know she is the most amazing chameleon, and what she did to me is something only sociopaths do, it’s called future faking, and u can learn more here. I’m going to stop now, because u probably won’t read half of this, just know this, less than 2 years ago she said I hung the moon, and I’m the same sweet, kind genuine patient person I was then, and I only came forward about us, because she acted like she was so distraught about it, then disappeared for 5 days, to go fuck who knows how many, but she made the mistake of making plans with me forthe following day. I believed she was everything she painted herself as, but I had no idea she already had other fuck buddies on and off of skype. Since I began my detective work, I’ve found out so many things that have made me run to get every std test they offer, and as she’s gone on business as usual, and I’m not even a thought, except to feign concern, saying I’m crazy and need to be on medication, and is just as happy as a lark, she somehow claims to be the victim in all this. i on the other hand, almost lost my job, my home, my savings are all but gone, my health is compromised, and I have complex post traumatic stress disorder, and narcissistic abused victim syndrome, and the prognosis there could also be life long, as is the congestive heart failure. Not to mention the fact the idea of opening my heart to anyone ever again, under any circumstances, at this point isn’t even something I an fathom. I trust no one, and it’s now been a year, and I still find myself in a fog some days, as she did such a great job of making me believe she meant the wonderful future she promised me. here’s a couple of screen shots, though like I said, I doubt u’ll even read this, as she’s already convinced you I’m crazy and/or still in love with her. If I could just talk to the guy, I could tell him verbatim the things she’s telling him, because it’s what she does to addict her victims. If she’s a convert, why blaspheme God, whey the need for constant deviant sexual behavior? Sociopaths can’t be saved, simply because salvation the Bible speaks of is aleeing oneself as a hopeless sinner. She doesn’t think anything she does is wrong, and in fact that is whyreatment that works. Her life is a game, and we are all players and/or props in the game, and everything is either win or lose, because she has the emotional intelligence of a 4 year old. I know u don’t beliege me, and I know ur not interested in seeing the proof, but I’ve posted to scioto county pickers, and other picker pages, if you want to know more, which believe me, I know you don’t, I’ll be here. One last thing to consider, I’ve outright called her a predatory sociopath in public, so why do you suppose she’s done nothing about that? Slander, isn’t it? Only if it’s not true, and she does nothing, because she doesn’t want to risk her being exposed by causing waves. she’s counting on her playing the victim, and calling me crazy being enough to keep her safe. So, if nothing else, if and when you tell her about this, make sure she knows I won’t stop until she either confesses openly to me what she did, and why. so I can have my answers and closure, or until she’s nowhere to hide and is fully exposed publicly.
    She is an extremely dangerous creature, a demon in human skin as far as I’m concerned, and had she not been so overtly cruel when I am as she says the “nicest guy” or had she not mistaken my kindness for weakness, and I couldn’t be 100% I ALWAYS treated her with love, kindness, emotional support, encouragement, and deference, as I’m so good at blaming myself for things, she’d probably have gotten away without a peep from me, but I set out from the beginning to NOT allow ANYTHING I did to somehow cause her to feel marginalized or under a microscope, and so it is because of the fact I was ALWAYS overtly nice, she is so obviously making everything up, and the reason, because it’s who she is, it’s what she is, it is hardwired in her DNA to hurt people for NO REASON.

    I have screenshots from her facebook messages, and, of her phone number texting me, and video proof as well, and she’s lucky I haven’t sued her for the medical bills I have as a result of her abject intentional cruelty.

    1. I think we were dating the same girl. Homeschooled pastors daughter. Married a preachers son and divorced him because she says she was abandoned, but it’s because she got caught cheating. Faith Fix is her name and she is the devil.

  3. Keep in mind that the police and courts are pro- female when it comes to domestic violence. A women can go to the courthouse, say she’s scared, fill out a form, and boom. The guy gets hit with a restraining order at work. He can’t even go home that night. A female sociopath will use this to her advantage.

    This scenario happened to me. After weeks of waiting for a hearing, the judge allowed me to get my stuff with police escort. When I opened the door, everything was gone, and I mean everything. Even the red pepper flakes you get from pizza delivery. But I did get one thing; evicted for domestic violence! Yea me!

    All this because she said she was scared of me. No police report. No evidence. No trial.

  4. Amen Paul. I’ll make this brief. I have a 3 year on-and-off relationship with a female sociopath. First warning was catching her in lies. I’m talking about finding out she’s on Craigslist looking for guys. Found this out by pretending to be someone else….complete with a fake picture. Also found on her old phone texts and emails where she had affairs. After the lies…..then I became more curious and stumbled into the bigger problem of sociopathy. She exhibited every trait to my utter amazement and sadness. Lots of different jobs, moving from place to place, drug and/or alcohol addiction. Sadness because there is no cure. Bottom line; 1) the Financial strain. Money just goes. We are compassionate and helpful. But we are used. Hard to get them to say “thanks”. 2) the Emotional strain. Broke my heart. We care. They don’t. It’s their world and they are the priority, at all times. 3) sexual selfishness. Other than the first time to hook you, they don’t care if you get satisfied. They don’t cuddle. They have no warmth. There is no emotional connection. The addiction is real. The charm, the beauty, and the interesting stories intrigue you. I know the only way is to make a clean break…and don’t look back. I need to save my sanity. Any help appreciated.

  5. Married to a sociopath/professional liar for 17 years. We have a teenager that I have educated on sociopaths, narcissism and the rage. I showed my son a great article on the rage from this website and it suits her to a tee, she would not back down even though she is much smaller that both of us. The eyes and facial expressions changed and yelling at the top of her lungs. I’m sure that the neighbors could hear 2 doors down, and sure we would be perceived as the problem and not her. I have two more years to protect and educate my son before sending him off to school in a different city. He will need to make a life on his own after that, otherwise, she will drain him with all her demands and to support her financially. Funny, she was very offended when I called her a princess (another word I’m not allowed to use around the house anymore). Smartest thing my son did was film her during a rage (kicking at a locked door that he was hiding behind) and then post it to the web for all his friends to see. At first she was embarassed but then blamed him the next day for causing her rage.
    She may appear charming but my friends were able to see that her comments were all fake, no sincere words at all. She had friends before marriage but now my son and I are her entertainment, driver and house cleaners. This site and others are so helpful in planning an escape (no contact) and ensuring that legal representation with knowledge of sociopaths is key in ensuring that some of your interests are taken care of when you are ready to leave. Don has a scary story and it is one that I may face one day. They will stop at nothing to get what they want, which is everything. Unfortunately, everything will never bring them happiness.

  6. I think the female sociopath goes through largely undetected because they can shape the aftermath easier. As in, when a male sociopath tries to run a smear campaign, some people might be wary of how true the story is. When a female sociopath claims someone has been abusive, controlling, etc. people are less likely to question that, as men are ‘typically’ the abusive one in the relationship.

    1. I think you are right. I think females can blend easier. It is easier for a female to feign being emotional. Or to be stay at home housewife while man goes to work. To be a gossip and to play the victim. Females can blend more. Often females are mistakingly diagnosed BPD or histrionic.

  7. Oh hell there is certainly enough of them these days as well as psychopaths which they’re very dangerous most of the time unfortunately

  8. Yes, the lady I know says she has been diagnosed as Bi-Polar…..but maybe the Dr. Said something else.!!?? This condition actually the sociopath would love, making her abnormalities seem more common and acceptable. It is an absolute tragedy that anyone in this condition cannot be cured.

    1. Bi polar is very different to psychopathy. One is a mood disorder. The other is a lack of human emotions and lack of conscience. People with bipolar do not lack conscience. Neither do they lack feelings. Why do you think she is not bipolar? People with bipolar can be normal on medication. People psychopathy no treatment works and there is no medication for it. The brain is wired differently.

  9. I’ve known this person for 3 years and she has EVERY characteristic of a sociopath. I have been emotionally and financially drained. All I was saying is that her saying she is BP would be a front or excuse for the bigger issue. Yes, women are sociopaths too, and are just as wicked as their male counterparts.. Maybe this site just focuses on the more popular male topic.

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