STOP BY AND SAY HI!!


It can be difficult either being in the relationship with the sociopath, or leaving them. They are masters of manipulation and control. Sociopaths will burn your life to the ground, if you hang around with them for long enough.

It can take some time to rebuild your life, rebuilding your social networks. Or even trusting someone again. Additionally you might find it difficult to explain to those close to you (if you have anybody left) how you are feeling.

Facebook can be great, but it uses your personal information, and maybe you want to stay anonymous. Please use this page, and the comments, to drop by to say hi. How are you feeling today? How is your day going? On a scale of 1-10 how are things going for you?

Comments come to this site, all over the site, but as a reader you wouldn’t see this. So that you know you are NOT alone, drop by and say hi. Know that you are NOT alone, there are thousands of people every day reading this site. Say hi, and support each other.

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354 thoughts on “STOP BY AND SAY HI!!”

  1. I have split yet again from my sociopathic ex.
    I believed him Everytime and I feel very foolish.
    The turning point though was the third time he tried to strangle me, I put up with the lies because I knew everything was a lie.
    He had access to all my social media and emails, proudly telling me he could even see my whattsapp messages.
    I’m now trying to rebuild my life and forget about the last 5 years

    1. Hey Shazper, your comment, did alarm me when you say that you have split with him ‘yet again’ and that this time he tried to strangle you.

      I don’t want to frighten you. I cannot diagnose the person that you were with. But if you were with someone who is psychopathic in nature, and he has got to the point of potential strangulation, you REALLY do need to take this seriously. People like this, can have an inner rage, and lose control – they have no guilt, remorse, or shame for their actions. A violent one (not all are) is a VERY dangerous one. I can promise you, that this will NOT get better over time. It will only get worse. Please do not return, what other support networks do you have available to you? Family, friends, access to DV support in your area?

  2. I am delighted at discovering this site. I have spent the past 5 months trying to recover from a breakup, trying to figure out what went wrong, asking for an explanation from my ex. Even directly asking for closure. Only for the support of good friends I think i would have lost my mind. Now, finally, I understand that I was dating a sociopath. It is proving very painful (frightening actually) to read this site, having to face up to the fact that even the few things I clung to as being true, were not. That the whole relationship was a lie from start to finish. I have always kept a journal and when I read it back after the breakup I could find no good memories. But I’m going to keep on reading so that I never make this mistake again.

  3. I have turned the tables. I am a pretty well adjusted woman who ended it with a man I’m convinced is a sociopath. Now I call him when I feel horny and use him for casual sex. I will never say “I love you,” and don’t care about his “poor me” b.s. He’s great in bed and my friends tell me I’m looking wonderful. It’s nice to be in control.

      1. Thank you for your concerns. My eyes are wide open. I am very careful and will not fall into his tangled web.

      2. As a person who played the dance for years, many of them knowing he was a sociopath, the sociopath only ALLOWS you to think you are in control. They are always in control. If it is a real sociopath.

  4. I am a single mother of five. I have recently reacquainted with an old friend, just before my divorce. She is now my roommate, I discovered after just about a month of living with her that she is a sociopath, She tried to turn my adopted daughter against me and she is making my life very difficult. I am just looking for support as I begin this journey. We are 7 months into a three lease. The manipulation and the daily maintenance of this is almost unbearable. If it weren’t for my faith in God, I don’t know how I would make it. If anyone has any suggestions on how to make this easier, I would really appreciate the advice.

  5. So I was in a relationship with a guy which went on and off for a couple of times with breaks as long as 2 months and everytime the relationship resumed it was like same as before, same love, same craziness and constant love bombing used to begin right after some sorries and acknowledgement of a little wrong doing. I feel i was so much lost in the smoke of what he made me believe about him and how crazily we connected and how well he understood me. For some time, I started feeling resentment for my family as to why they don’t understand me as well as him. Yeah, he was that good at faking it, but such a sad realization it is. Everytime I tried to get too close or ask for long term commitment he used to start demeaning me and he challenged and mocked pretty much all aspects of my life- my career, looks, friends and even family. It feels as if he knew me too well, and after such a hard break up and sudden lack of empathy, it feels as if he stole something so precious from me. I feel lost, I feel disoriented and a I feel deeply hurt as the person I fell madly in love with never existed. He broke up with me at a very difficult time and leaving scars which will go on with me for life. One thing is that you get your heart badly broken by someone you loved and other is that you start questioning yourself as to how could you put your faith in such a monster. How did you fail to see who he was whilst lying cozily in his arms. How? And why me? Why did he pick me for his pleasures and then threw me off when I started asking for something real. Yes I am totally lost right now, this website helps but is he really that vain? What makes him happy? Why did he went for all that drama? I am still not able to go through that no contact thing? I don’t text him and nor does he but the texting is still open, don’t have the courage to block it yet..

    1. Hi, I hear your pain, confusion, in your comment. I am so sorry that you have been left feeling this way. What happened, is not your fault. You did not do anything to deserve this. Neither are you stupid for not detecting who he really was.

      They are better at hiding, than you were at seeking out the behaviour. Likely because you had never experienced it before.

      He picked you, because you were warm, kind, generous, all of the traits I want you to love about you. He picked you for all of the things that make you very special.

      Please don’t let your experiences with this person make you doubt yourself. Or make you feel that you are less than you really are. He was the expert at this…. and will continue to be so. I am sorry that you are hurting, each day away from him, you will heal.

  6. Hi….I really don’t know where to begin with this!
    In September 2014 I finally left my Sociopath. I returned to Britain,and he remained in Spain where we both lived.
    It wasn’t plain sailing, his endless need to still try and control via vile emails sometimes 12 per day.
    I went legal in the end, and it took just over 2 years,going to a 3rd and final court hearing,because of his endless stalling,lying,and ignoring legal documents. Finally the judge deemed in my favour,she was granted a divorce,finances were sorted,and he was ordered to pay half my legal costs,as to his timewasting…at that point they’d reached £16000!
    I’ve got on with my life,met someone else, and never had anymore contact with my ex.
    This week,exactly a year to the day of the final court hearing….he’s found dead in his apartment in Spain.
    Forensics sealed his apartment off,and via his daughter she’s told me today he was cremated there,and his wish was that no one attend,and this friend was to collect his ashes.
    He’s left everything to his daughter,and a letter to be opened after his death…she’s yet to receive this,as she’s here in the UK.
    My ex knew some nasty people,was totally vindictive and every trait running as to a sociopath.
    His last words to me last year was…that he never wanted to set eyes on me ever again,
    To me,he played his games to the end,and I think he committed suicide….my fear now is, will he seek revenge on me,via someone else.
    I was told as I’d basically won and hed lost, he was livid with me.
    I might add, I’d suppressed my feelings whilst the legal situation was going on,as not to antagonise the situation any more,… and when it was finally over…I told him exactly how I felt,listed numerous lies he’d ever told me, some so terrible I can’t repeat them 😡.
    He never replied,as he couldn’t deny any of it.
    I’ve read that sociopaths hate being found out,and now I’m paranoid that something might happen to me,now he’s dead…via retribution.
    I was his 3rd wife,but was told I’d hurt him more than any other person by leaving…I left because I couldn’t take his abuse any longer,but obviously he didn’t see that.
    Maybe I’m just being paranoid,and I’d been perfectly fine until his daughter told me of his death.
    I don’t feel emotional in the sense of his passing,more a numbness.
    Anyone else had this experience….and is it normal for the victim to feel these thoughts after the death of their abuser 😐

  7. Hello, this is my first time here. You got a good site going here!

    I’d like to make you aware of a link from the Guardian UK newspaper, the chilling story of a guy who cut his wife’s parachute harness in an attempt to murder her. He’s definitely the kind described on this site, so check it out.

    Unfortunately, the wife even now is not psychologically free of him, making excuses for him and so on. All-too-typical victim loyalty.

    https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2018/jul/14/emile-cilliers-psychopath-inside-story-parachute-murder-plot

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