A warning to all show off’s!
You might think that sociopaths only target people that are vulnerable. People who are weak or people who are down on their luck and needy themselves.
A sociopath can target these people, as this is an easy target. If your last relationship was abusive, or ended due to deception or betrayal, it is likely that damage was already done. If you are weak and looking to fill a void, this is easy prey for the sociopath. They are always willing to step in and fill the vacancy that you are advertising in your life!
The other group of people that are attractive to sociopaths, are those who are successful in life. Nothing can lure in a sociopath more than someone who is bragging about what they have. By bragging to the world how successful you are, you are merely advertising to the sociopath what you have to offer and give away.
We all do it, you meet someone and you think that this person is your ideal. You want them to know what a good catch you are. So, you talk about how great your job is. Because you are seeking similar things in a man, you tell him, you have a good job, your own home, no debts, in fact you are pretty financially secure.
At the extreme end of the spectrum, perhaps you have spare cash, money in the bank, you have a lot to offer someone and you (being keen to show that you are not like the man you are NOT looking for) sell yourself.
DON’T DO THIS!
Advertising yourself in this way, with someone you do not know, and have not verified who they are, is like putting a billboard advertising sign up. Like putting on a shop window telling the sociopath all there is to take from you (and he will).
You tell him all the things that you value, all the things that you want. How awful your last ex was, and bingo, he has the perfect way to lure you in.
He will mirror you, and fake what you want to hear.
Try not to say TOO MUCH about yourself, and your life, in fact, instead put yourself down. Make yourself a less attractive OPTION.
Because this is what you are to a sociopath. An opportunity. For him, it is like looking in a shop window, and the more that you sell yourself, he does actually think that you are selling whatever YOU own to him. Well not selling, he see’s it as his divine right to take it.
And as far as the sociopath is concerned, it is your own stupid fault for bragging in the first place.
You wouldn’t go to a festival, take all your expensive items, leave it inside the tent on show, with the tent door open, in vain hope that the right man (or woman) will be sat outside your tent waiting for his perfect woman when you got back? Of course you wouldn’t that would be stupid.
So don’t sell your wares to someone you have just met. Remember, a sociopath looks normal, dresses normal, and will mirror you and be everything that you want him to be. Say little, and let him sell himself to you and if he is selling YOU back, RUN!!
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