There is no greater feeling, than falling back in love with your life. To appreciate, and love the small things in life. To be the person that you were always meant to be.
In life, there really are two emotions. Love and fear. Love makes us expand, gives us courage to explore, to share, to appreciate the beauty is all around us. The colours are vibrational, warm and vivid when you live a life in love.
When you live in fear, you are paralysed. You feel unable to move forward and the world becomes dark, still. Colours are gone, there is no light, instead what was once light and vivid, becomes shaded with grey. The shadows are everywhere.
You seek out others, to find the light.
Here, can be the difficulty. Sociopaths target those who are looking for the light in others, rather than the light that exists within, and all around you. Common targets, are the bereaved, the heartbroken, the betrayed, single parents, the elderly, anyone seeking…. just seeking.
Believe me they will step in, to fulfil the vacancy that you were advertising for your life – for their own merit, and the destruction of yours.
Stop…. sit in the silence. Do not be afraid of the darkness. Instead, try to focus on the light that is within and all around you.
Start small. Be brave. Begin to trust yourself. Keep your world small, and grow from there. Each day. Every single day, challenge yourself to do ONE thing that will make you smile. It can be absolutely anything. From watching something you love on netflix, to doing art, writing, going somewhere beautiful, take a trip around where you live, see the beauty, as if you were a tourist for the first time. Start LIVING again.
You do not have to stay still anymore.
If your sociopath is still around you. Please know that there will never be any improvement or change while they still are. They are master manipulators, and you will remain confused, disorientated, and certainly living life in darkness – just waiting for them to shower you with some ‘faux’ light.
The light, and the life is within YOU. It is within YOUR connection to YOUR world. The things that bring YOU joy. It is true, that while in a relationship with one, they can and likely will hijack your life, your interests, your passions and dreams. That does not mean that those dreams are no longer there for you. You just have to SHUT THEM OUT. Put up the wall and reclaim your life – for you.
Seek professional help, if you are feeling emotionally/,mentally damaged. It will help to speed up your healing. Sociopaths HATE you being in therapy and being told the truth. A professional can help as you need more than anything someone that you TRUST. Who is there to help you. A person you can sit with, in confidence, who will help you, to find the you within again.
Therapies that can be useful EMDR (for those with PTSD), CBT, Gestalt therapy. It is a lie that you will be forever broken.
Celebrate how far you have come. Reward yourself. Link back into things, people, places that bring you fun. And if you have lost people out of your life (as many do), let those people go. You need people in your life who love and believe in you – anyway.
Don’t expect too much too soon. It is a recovery process. A journey. Log your successes along the way. Reward yourself.
Do one thing every day that makes you smile
Expand as time goes on
Reconnect with your passions
Perhaps move away from what causes trigger trauma
Block the sociopath forever
Be around good people
Eat good food
Treat yourself well
See the beauty that is around you
Don’t expect too much too soon
Stay with the present. ONE day at a time
Make sure you get enough sleep
Start making plans for the future
Close the door on the past, start celebrating your life for today
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