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Sociopath real and fake jealousy

It might seem an odd concept that if a sociopath doesn’t feel emotions, how is it possible to experience jealousy?

jealousy

Sociopaths can feel jealousy.  The sociopath sees you as a resource that he owns.  He barely has control of himself and so he needs someone else to control. A sociopath will see you, as a part of himself.

Sociopaths like to:

  • Win
  • Have control and be in control
  • Have ownership and dominance over you

There are two types of jealousy that you will experience with a sociopath

  1. Fake Jealousy
  2. Real Jealousy

Fake Jealousy

A sociopath is very capable of faking emotions, at least when it suits him to do so. Usually this is so that he can manipulate, deceive and use you. He might not feel genuine jealous feelings, but he will display these feelings to you. He does this, simply to control you.

‘Acting’ jealous can isolate you from a friend who is the opposite sex – when he deliberately accuses you of ‘doing something’ with this friend. Alternatively, he can ‘act’ jealous about plans that you have made with otherpeople that he isn’t involved with. You will protest at how ridiculous this is. This person is just a friend, or that you have planned to do things with other people. But the sociopath will act furious, and will feign hurt, and rejection. He   acts out this role with such gusto, that you will be fooled into thinking that he actually does believe what he is accusing you of.

He doesn’t.

Fake Jealousy is a manipulation tool, designed to control you. By faking that he is feeling jealous, he reasons that you will feel guilty. To stop any further drama, you will likely feel the need to stay away from the friendship. The sociopath will act hurt, in fact, he might actually go as far as to ‘cry’ in front of you. It won’t be real tears. They are very good at turning on the tears, and feigning hurt and injury. This is done in an effort to make you feel bad, make you feel guilty, control you, and to remove people (who he perceives, could in the future be a threat) from your life.

How can you tell if it is fake jealousy?

Fake jealousy is relatively easy to detect, when you have been with the person for a while. You know:

  • It has no bearing on reality
  • The outburst associated with it is VERY dramatic
  • You feel like you are being controlled
  • You feel like you are being manipulated
  • You are being told… not to see this person ever again and you will be warned under the guise of jealousy, of hurt feelings, of rejection. Or even, under the guise of ‘having your best interests at heart’

You will be made to feel bad. And how you are made to feel bears no reality to what has happened. His reaction is way over the top. And nothing you do or say will make him stop bringing it up. Well nothing apart from you saying that you will have nothing more to do with that person again.

Why does he fake jealousy? 

He will fake jealousy if he fears that this person is

  • Advising you to leave him
  • At risk of taking your time, therefore removing his total control over you

A sociopath will find it difficult to manipulate you, and control you for what he needs, if others are in the way. He does have a genuine fear that others might take you away from him. The reason why he thinks this is because he fears losing control.

It is never about LOVE it is always about FEAR of losing control.

  • He does it to control you.
  • To stop you from exposing him.

Real Jealousy

Whilst a sociopath might seem to be the bully and the controlling manipulative man, at the heart of who he is, is an insecure man. The sociopath is a weak person.

A sociopath can therefore feel jealousy of you, or others in your life for the following reason

  • Fear that you will find others more interesting
  • Fear that other people have real qualities, that he is faking and you might go off with them (thus losing his control over you) and a loss of supply
  • Fear that you will talk to others about him, and he will be exposed
  • Fear that he is losing control over you

A sociopath will therefore react strongly, and you could see the narcissistic rage occur. Jealousy can be felt. But it can be real or fake. The biggest difference between the two is that with fake jealousy, because it is a manipulation tool, the sociopath can fake it for a long time, and is heavily dramatic – and nothing will stop him raging about what he says he is jealous of, until he is sure that the source of the threat is removed.

Warning:

A sociopath who is jealous can be dangerous. A sociopath who is jealous is likely to display narcissistic rage. If the jealousy is fake, NOTHING will reassure him. Nothing but removing whatever he is jealous of out of your life. 

This is how people become slowly isolated in their relationship with the sociopath. It becomes too much trouble to have others in your life. Sociopath’s know this, and play up to it. The less people you have your life, the more he has total control over you.

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