Sociopath and the dangers of on line dating

All sociopaths are different. Some wait for the perfect prey, others simply target someone that has previously been victimised and is vulnerable, or lonely.

If you have been through a rough time before, and seek to find another relationship to feel better, to get over the hurt and pain of the last one. STOP!!!  take a step back, as you are the perfect target for a sociopath.


Online dating is a perfect place for meeting a sociopath. Remember the four things that sociopaths do:

  • Assessment
  • Seduction
  • Gaming
  • Ruining

Making the assessment stage easy

On line dating, is for the sociopath, easy pickings. After all, what difficulty is there in the assessment if you have already told him everything about you in your profile? You have said, what you want, and what you don’t want. There ARE sociopaths who will rewrite their own profile to match yours. To seem like the perfect man. You are looking for a soulmate. Your perfect match. Who better to be that perfect match than a sociopath?

Of course, not all people on on line dating sites are predators, or sociopaths. But, realistically, it is the most obvious place to meet one. There is no face to face contact. They can seduce you by email, move to phone quickly, love bomb you, and ensure that your profile is quickly taken off.

Relationship moves quickly

Once he has found his prey online. Once, he has assessed you, that you are right for him, and his needs, and that you will fulfill his need for supply. A sociopath doesn’t like competition. He will tell you that he has closed his dating account. Because you are special. This will make you feel obliged to remove your own. You might not have decided on him. You might have numerous mail from other people. But he wants to ensure that you are his, and only his. So he tells you that he has decided that you are so special, that he has removed his own profile. His motive, is not because you are so special. His motive, is to take you off the market.

Quick intimacy

He will ask for your number, and your social networking details. He will say something like”‘there are lots of other photos of me on there”, or “I have real friends and family on there” With Facebook, he can glean even further information from you. Making his work of assessment easy. He can then quickly move onto the seduction stage. You will feel swept off of your feet, and your head is spinning, you feel sure that you have met someone very special, you believe that you have met a real true soul mate connection (fancy the chances huh?)

Keep yourself safe online. Keep your correspondence online. Until you are sure. Do not move to other social networking pages or anywhere that gives further information about you, before you are ready. Otherwise, you could find yourself thinking you have fallen in love with with someone before you have even met.

Ask yourself these following questions

  • Is this moving fast
  • Has he asked for phone number, social networking, keen to meet up before you are ready?
  • Does he seem to have so much in common with you?
  • Is his profile almost a mirror image of your own?
  • Does he seem to say virtually nothing wrong?
  • Does it feel like you have known him for a lifetime, perhaps many lifetimes?
  • Is he exactly what you have listed in your profile, a perfect match for you?
  • When you meet does he seem EXACTLY (in terms of personality) the same as he was online?
  • Does he try to stay over at yours when you meet?

If the answer to above is yes, then proceed with caution, you could have met a sociopath!

Copyright 2013

4 thoughts on “Sociopath and the dangers of on line dating”

  1. When we encounter these sociopaths on line, is there a website where we can post their names & identities as a warning to others. Would this be a legal liability? What they do is corrupt & so they should be exposed for what they are evil monsters.

    1. Do you know, I saw a link for something like that the other day. But I would think that it would be a risky thing to do. As they would likely report you to the police for defamation of character, slander, call you obsessed, or report you for harassment….. ugh.

      But – THANK YOU I was trying to find this post 🙂

      1. Oh I am sure it’s like most websites, there is a disclaimer, “this website is for entertainment purposes only…. Blah blah blah blah”. And I am sure they would just lie anyway, that’s not me, it’s just a person who looks just like me!! 😊


  2. great publish, very informative. I wonder why the opposite experts of
    this sector do not understand this. You should continue your writing.
    I am sure, you have a huge readers’ base already!

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