Sociopaths and the use of social networking

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There has been no better invention in the world of the sociopath than social networking. The sociopath will effectively use social networking to:

  • Manipulate
  • Control
  • Spying and Stalking
  • Create a false persona (including making you jealous)

Remember that the Sociopath creates a mask of illusion, is the master magician. For some victims, all common sense goes out of the window when checking on their ex partners social networking page. The sociopath was a liar when in the relationship with you. So why do you assume that everything that the sociopath puts on social networking is true? They are master game players. Sociopaths use social networking as a tool.

Ways that the sociopath uses social networking

1. In the Assessment stage, when scouting for a new victim. Social networking is very useful. It is a quick handy way that the sociopath can learn all about you. Who you talk to, who is important to you. Other people in your life, your support network. Your likes and dislikes. What are your vanities? How vain are you? (in terms of photos). How many friends do you have? How popular are you? What things make you angry?

The sociopath can scan back years, until the beginning of your use of a particular social networking. They will look at photos, read comments.

By using social networking in the initial stages, the sociopath can quickly find out so much  about you, so that they can quickly become the person that you want.

2. During the relationship Whilst in the relationship with the sociopath, they will use social networking, to manipulate and control you, and to create a false image to others. Just as many sociopaths have more than one phone. They also can have more than one facebook account (my last ex had 12). Sociopaths are expert at understanding how facebook works, and using privacy controls, to create an image. They can block you from certain parts of their Facebook, so that you only see things that they want you to see. An example of this, is when the sociopath openly pours out declarations of love, both on your Facebook wall (ownership), and also on their own Facebook wall. As with most things with the sociopath there is always something a bit odd.

You might wonder, why is nobody on their friends list commenting, or liking, or the only ones who are, are random people? This is because they can set up blocks, so that other people although on their friends list, cannot see what they are posting on their status or are blocked from seeing photos. Likely you will be blocked from certain aspects of the sociopaths page too. This is the ultimate control.

You know that this is happening, as the sociopath accuses you of doing this? The sociopath always accuses you of what they are doing themselves.

REMEMBER THE SOCIOPATH STRIVES FOR CONTROL AND WILL USE SOCIAL NETWORKING TO ACHIEVE THIS

3. Just as the sociopath is the master illusionist and trickster, there is no better tool to help them to do this, than social networking. The sociopath can hide behind the mask of social networking, and be whoever they want the person they are manipulating to be. Sociopaths can, being paranoid that YOU are doing the same thing as them, can hack into your email, facebook and other social networking, to find out personal information about you. What are your conversations? What are your emails? They always assume that you are guilty of what they are doing themselves. Additionally if they find any information, they can use this to control you further. This will always come in handy for later ruining.

4. When the relationship comes to an end, the sociopath will use social networking (and this is particularly common for female sociopaths) to make you jealous, to show you that they are having an amazing life, and that you meant nothing. If they can, they will post photos of them having a ‘great’ time. Even if they aren’t. Remember that all sociopaths are narcissists, image is everything. Female sociopaths will post photos of them looking amazing, on nights out, photos with new victims. Showing just how happy they are, without you (cos it was all your fault right).

What to do

If still in the relationship

Go careful what you put on social media. Even if the sociopath says nothing – you can be sure that they are manipulating you using social media. They are monitoring your every move to control you. Likely, their own facebook is contrived to give a certain image. DO NOT believe all that you see. Sociopaths know the privacy controls of Facebook inside out. Just as they can manipulate you, they can use social media to create a false persona to create the ‘evidence’ of the mask of illusion (you remember how he/she would say…. well call this person) – its like that. Simply a tool to create a mask of illusion.

Don’t play the game. Remember all is never as it seems with the sociopath. It is recommended to get out of the relationship and establish No contact.

If the relationship has ended

  • Change all passwords, make them passwords that cannot be guessed or hacked
  • Block the sociopath (on all of their accounts)
  • Be wary of mutual friends (they can look at someone else’s account to check yours) – sometimes it is necessary for your own sanity and peace of mind to have a ‘facebook clearout’, in terms of healing and recovery, it is important to rebuild your world with only those people you trust
  • DO NOT I repeat DO NOT look at the sociopaths social networking. If you do, you are simply continuing to play the game

Remove yourself from the game. Remove yourself from the sociopaths life. Establish No contact, and stick to it. Do not get tempted just to ‘have a look’ this will only bring further pain, and will be doing exactly what the sociopath is hoping that you will do.

Remember that the sociopath deliberately creates dependence and addiction to him/her. It is important in recovery to take it one day at a time. To realise that you need to wean yourself off of this unhealthy addiction. To focus on you, and your life.

Get out in the real world. Remember that even if you have removed the sociopath, they can hack you, so changing passwords is very important.

The sociopath can only use social networking to manipulate, control and hurt you, if you allow this. Stop looking, stop interacting, and stop playing the game.

Focus on you, and your life. Love yourself. Realise that the sociopath couldn’t be honest in the relationship, why would they be honest on social networking? Social networking is nothing more than a mask of illusion, the easiest mask for the sociopath to use. Stop hurting yourself. Establish no contact, and set yourself free.

You’re worth it!! 🙂

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56 thoughts on “Sociopaths and the use of social networking

  1. This is so true! My ex path created an alias for the social networking page and I was his only friend on it. It seemed odd to me at the time but he used some conspiracy theory excuse as to why he wouldn’t have an account. It became clear to me that he had all this info on my whereabouts and social activity ( we had a long distance rship) when I had no clue to his. I later discovered his real account (which mysteriously appeared) and his new girlfriend all over it! He did once say to me ” I have many aliases YOU are not privy to”. Aargh, if only I saw the real him earlier, it would have saved me some heartache. P.s anyone else’s ex had many conspiracy theories? And would talk incessantly about them.

  2. Totally not surprising about the 12 facebooks. I have brought up gut feelings more than once and even though I have no proof what so ever, I just have a “gut” feeling that he has more than one. So, blocking him would be pointless, since I know he has 12 (or however many). I even suspected he has them set up under different names and pictures too. I mean, why not?? If you’re going to wear a mask, might as well have a whole different face on too?

    So with all that, I have completely deleted my facebook months ago. It has really catapulted the healing process, although I am moving soon and want to re-connect on facebook (not to him, but to others) to stay in touch while I am gone. I dont want him to “control” whether I use facebook or not, but I literally want him to know NOTHING about me, where I am, what I am doing etc. So, thats why I love not having a facebook. But what about the rest of my life?? I know it sounds so silly, but I am literally moving across the country. I want to be able to connect with the people I care about. But I also dont want to be tempted to look at his page (by having a facebook) either.

    Thoughts??

    1. Change your name on your old account so he can’t find you. Do you have a nickname you can use to where your friends will recognize it? One that he doesn’t know about? Then again, it doesn’t even need to make sense to others. I have a coworker who changed his name to “Last name, first name” because he doesn’t want future employers (he’s applying around) to be able to find him.

      1. The only problem is we have a few mutual friends. So, it wouldnt be hard for him to scan their friend list to find me. I’m just irritated that I even have to think like this. Part of me wants to jump back into the facebook scene, but part of me doesnt know if I am ready. Partially becasue I dont want him to know anything about me, in any way, shape or form, and another part of me because I dont want temptation to see what he is doing, etc.

        I have this huge aversion to social networking lately, mostly because i think it can get depressing seeing what everyone else is doing, subconsciously comparing your life to others. Maybe i am just in too fragile of a state still to be immune to all the bs of other people (not any of you, sorry). But I feel since dealing with my soc and moving on, i have less patience for others, less desire to want to be around others, less desire to connect…which I know I told you I wanted to connect with people from back home when I move, but I just dont want to drop off the map completely and become forgotten or something?

        And part of me is incredibly liberated that he has nothing on me anymore. No pictures, no word on where I am/what I am doing. I hope it comes up in passing one day how I moved across the country at the drop of a hat, without a heads up to him. Although I doubt he would even feel anything then if that was how it all unfolded.

      2. gaslighted…you could set your fb settings to keep him from seeing you. I blocked my ex and we still have a few mutual friends (his aunt and cousin), and even if he were on their site he wouldn’t be able to see me. He would have to log in as them (hack them) in order to see me. But if you are that unsure about social networking and you don’t trust yourself not to look at his page then maybe the best thing is to leave it alone for awhile until you are more comfortable. Don’t be irritated with yourself…you’ve been to hell and are working on your way back to a normal life. Maybe you could email the folks you want to stay in contact with and stay in touch that way for awhile until you’re ready for social networking again. You didn’t say why you were moving…new job?…that would mean new connections and new friends and that will help you tremendously. Please don’t compare your life to others…they haven’t been through what you have and don’t have any idea how to comprehend what you’re dealing with now. Take plenty of time for you…take this time to explore new interests, hobbies, whatever you can think of. I know how you feel about wanting him to find out you moved so far away and didn’t consult him about it…doing so shows a lot of independence on your part and a strong willingness to move on with your life and you will. But truth be told, he wouldn’t care about your move, the only thing he would think is that you would be a permanent loss of supply. One piece of advice about your move is that, don’t put a change of address in with the post office, that is public information and if he wanted to find you he could that way. Notify those you need to notify through a direct letter or email and tell them that way. Enjoy your liberation…you’ve definitely earned it…just take everything one day at a time, one bridge at a time…choose to be happy, because it is a choice…enjoy your day!!

      3. Kimmi,

        Thanks for the response, the general consensus seems to be that I am just too jaded and burnt out to really leap back into social networking. I am still fairly drained from the past experience, regardless of how “done” I am.

        No change of address will be necessary, as I am renting now, and will be staying with friends for the first month or so before I continue to rent. I am moving across the country for a job transfer that he tried to talk me out of a few months ago. I was always on the fence about it while we were seeing each other, and it was a tough call to make while I was dating him. But as soon as it ended, I knew it was the right move for me. Yes, I am interested in meeting new people once I get there. And when I go there, I have no memories, land marks, places to remind me of him or us. Its perfect, really.

        I just feel so bitchy sometimes to other people and I dont mean to be? And sometimes I get so stressed out with everything that I shut down and have to just tune out for a few hours. Almost like I took on too much at once, when really, this is far below my normal level of functioning. I just want to be back at the level 8-10 that I usually operate at. Where as now, if I push myself above a 7, I am burnt out, exhausted, etc. Looking forward to recovering more.

        Thank you for your kind words and have a great day!

    2. GL you have life running through your veins so,when you are ready to rise up & break free of the prison in your mind you will but, it takes time.
      Don’t worry about him knowing what your doing,what have you to be ashamed of, Nothing!
      He is still controlling you,don’t let him stop you.
      Have your face book,have your Normal ;0) talk to your friends & family as if he doesn’t exist at all, make no mention of him, he doesn’t exist, never did & never will, he wasn’t REAL EVER!
      Just keep moving forward, he can’t use you anymore so,don’t let him.
      Don’t stop being YOU! You are Real,ACT IT,THINK IT, BE IT ;0)
      Don’t let him take anymore away from you, he has already taken enough.
      Just keep away from HIS FB, & if you can’t then wait a while until that curiosity subsides (curiosity killed the cat remember)….
      Block him & if he wants to see what your up to then let him.
      You will be getting a life that you deserve, he can’t stop you.
      Only post normal stuff as you always would, don’t change yourself because of him.
      Just find yourself & live & be happy ;0) Keep those mind games/demons away by doing the healing recommendations. You have to practice it like you would anything & practice makes perfect but,you must keep at it until you get back to where you are comfortable. Allow yourself to feel, give yourself permission to feel & slowly it will return. Your numb because of great trauma but, you will recover just don’t put a time frame on it as it doesn’t have one ;0))) This trauma causes the tiredness,frustration,depression etc…a chemical has been released in your brain so, that’s why you feel like you do. We are all familiar with it 😦
      At first it’s anxiety & a rush of adrenaline then you go into the dulled unresponsive stage…it’s normal after this type of thing. Your grieving & you have every right to feel as you do! You have suffered a death but, GL you aren’t the Dead one just the grief stricken one. Your suffering Post traumatic Stress Disorder? & that’s to be expected after this torment.
      You will have bad days & good but, after what you have been through you can survive anything! You’ve been in a psychological war & you survived ;0)
      Your on your way to Bigger & Better, stay focused on that goal….
      We are CHEERING you along, YOUR NOT ALONE so,make us proud ;0))

      PR x

      1. Thank you I so needed this today my ex narcissistic deactivated his facebook but his new girlfriend has pictures of him with her kids saying this is their new family when he has negative contact with his son and has stop paying child support..My ex narcissistic husband has even bought her the same dogs as he did our kids and name them the same names

      2. I am sorry Stephenie. He is using his understanding of your needs to reflect onto what he offers her. This might sound cruel. Remember they have no real feelings. Everything is an act and learned behaviour from someone else.

      3. Every bit of your advice is so incredible and uplifting. This is really so much like grieving a death because someone you thought you knew is gone. the only difference is that the person you knew and loved never existed. When I lost my brother I healed from helping other people who lost a loved one. you can heal the same way Pheonix Rising (the previous poster) is healing by helping another victim. Thank you Pheonix Rising for all of your great words and thoughts and care.

    3. I am so where you were. I can do without Facebook but the Narc has my social security number along with my kids! He did that whole invading our phones .. laptops .. whatever he could get his slimmy hands on. It’s true they do give away what they are doing! Only he claimed his ex wife was the Narc. I never bought that. I couldn’t tell if he was just socially retarded or evil.. Had him diagnosed.. smh! Pragmatic language disorder!! I call bullshit! Narcsissist !! Text book ! Pisses me off the therapist missed this! I don’t care what happens to him totally irrelevant to me! I’ve contacted police .. IRS..every account I could think of!! Just created another fake FB and tried friending my friends. I can’t get into my old one thanks to him but had a friend post about safe surfing internet and an article on why and what they do with social networks then had her tag 356 of my friends!

  3. Totally true about the hacking, mine was actually breaking into a locked cupboard to go through my phone, he had a gadget on a key ring to break locks with!! I almost caught him once (the lock was open), and I knew for certainty I had locked it and checked it again!.After that I secured my phone better, I always knew when he had tried again, his face would be flustered if I walked into the room, I could see the rage in him.

    I also think he was hacking into my fb and read the chat as I was actually writing it, next day he would mention things which left me confused, it would be like,,,,,,that’s exactly what Susie said last night,word for word!,,again,,I placed full security on my fb,and lo and behold,,,,a couple of times I received notification that ‘someone else had logged on’,I even could see the I.P. address,in the same area!!

    Of course he denied it so I called his bluff, said I had pinpointed it to his house, he then admitted it all saying it was because he was besotted with me and scared to death I may be cheating on him!!!

    ALL passwords and codes were changed,,,,it didn’t happen again.

  4. I had my own nightmare of a situation with social networking and a Sociopath not to long ago. A Sociopath of An EX- boyfriend stole my cell phone, deleted all of my contacts, then hacked every single one of my social networking accounts and pretended to be my very own mother and told someone he knew had a really big mouth that I had committed Suicide. So now the majority of my friends think I killed myself. You know, the rotten things Sociopaths will do to people will forever baffle me…

  5. [Help Please]

    Hello there, I was wondering if someone could Please help me see any sociopath’s behavior on my friends ex Boyfriend. Here’s the story

    ( It’s long but please. It’s really important)

    My Friend’s been talking to this guy who lives in his hometown Boston for over 2 years. A while ago he showed me a picture of this Handsome man called Rafael saying he was his ex boyfriend’s Carlos Ex and they met on Facebook And that he was excited to finally go back to Boston for the holidays and finally meet him. (My friend was living in LA back then). After this we never talked about him again. Yesterday my friend calls me on Facebook and says “Oh my god, look what I found.” He shows me this ad of a naked guy. and its the same picture Rafael sent him a while ago. “Do you think he’s an Escort or he probably doesnt even know about this?”
    Without thinking the guy was fake I told him that actually a lot of pages do fake ads with virus like that especially on porn websites . So then he texts Rafael and asks if he knows something about it. He seems surprised and said he had no idea his photo was being used for it. so I ask my friend his Facebook profile just to check if it was the same person of that photo… It was a total Fake profile. No pictures besides the blurry profile one, less than a 100 friends (which is weird for regular people, imagine a Handsome muscled guy) and a lot of posts on his wall saying.”Thanks for the request”. So no tags. Nothing. I was so surprised that my friend even believed him in the first place. I asked my friend if he ever actually met him or video chatted. He says he never saw him besides by 3 pics and they are always making plans. But always something happens last minute and they don’t meet. So how do you know for sure he’s a real person? He said, “Oh I know he’s real my Ex boyfriend dated him. And confirmed his story Even wanted him back while he was with me. Besides we have a lot of friends in common from Boston on facebook ,we talk on the phone all the time for hours and I have a feelin he is real.I like him. So I know he’s real. ” So I googled his profile picture plus the ones that my friend sent me And surprise.. They are everywhere all over the internet. So since I knew the profile was fake. Whoever confirms that met him in person is lying. And the only person who confirmed was my Friends ex boyfriend Carlos.

    Carlos isn’t somebody I like to have around. And that feeling is shared with other friends as well. He always have this fake smile and whenever he talks to you he always tries to pretend he’s more than he actually is. (Although always smiling and being funny. Being charming) When my Friend broke up with him because of his attitudes (aggressive,Jealous. Stalked my friend after they broke up and much more) 3 years ago. he was also relieved to be leaving Houston and coming to LA to have a new beginning away from this guy.

    But after a Year living here in LA. Carlos texts him saying he’s
    Moving to la for a new job opportunity.asking if he could help him out and show him around also letting him stay for while at his place. My friend gets all freaked out Feeling that he’s just coming back for him. ( by this time my Friend was already talking to Rafael on Facebook) So my friends doesn’t even reply him. Around the same time Rafael asks my friend on Facebook “Did u hear that Carlos just moved to LA? how do you feel about it?” So my friend trusting him. Tells him everything. saying that carlos texted him but he didnt reply and tells him all he’s been throu with him and he don’t wish to have him back on his life. So a few weeks later Carlos “Occasionally” bumped into my friend at this local bar ( right after we Checked on Facebook) and they started to talk. after that day my friend decided to give him another chance and become his friend once again. So now they are close friends and my friend don’t believe it can be true. Even after all he did in the past he said that Carlos would never do something like that.

    This Boy is a Pathological liar. He hides silly things from his boyfriend like he has a twin sister for no reason . and my friend once commented that he had a tought life growing up.

    It’s obvious to me that He in fact planned it all. And made my friend fall in love for this fake profile. So he could spy on him
    It’s scary the little details he thought of. How he fooled my friend all this time and how my friend simply trusts him even when I have proves.

    So my friend unfortunately is very innocent and naive
    should i be worried? Is there anything related to a real sociopath here? Or am I just being too dramatic?

    Thank you so much for reading and please let me know what you think.

  6. [Help Please]

    Hello there, I was wondering if someone could Please help me see any sociopath’s behavior on my friends ex Boyfriend. Here’s the story

    ( It’s long but please. It’s really important)

    My Friend’s been talking to this guy who lives in his hometown Boston for over 2 years. A while ago he showed me a picture of this Handsome man called Rafael saying he was his ex boyfriend’s Carlos Ex and they met on Facebook And that he was excited to finally go back to Boston for the holidays and finally meet him. (My friend was living in LA back then). After this we never talked about him again. Yesterday my friend calls me on Facebook and says “Oh my god, look what I found.” He shows me this ad of a naked guy. and its the same picture Rafael sent him a while ago. “Do you think he’s an Escort or he probably doesnt even know about this?”
    Without thinking the guy was fake I told him that actually a lot of pages do fake ads with virus like that especially on porn websites . So then he texts Rafael and asks if he knows something about it. He seems surprised and said he had no idea his photo was being used for it. so I ask my friend his Facebook profile just to check if it was the same person of that photo… It was a total Fake profile. No pictures besides the blurry profile one, less than a 100 friends (which is weird for regular people, imagine a Handsome muscled guy) and a lot of posts on his wall saying.”Thanks for the request”. So no tags. Nothing. I was so surprised that my friend even believed him in the first place. I asked my friend if he ever actually met him or video chatted. He says he never saw him besides by 3 pics and they are always making plans. But always something happens last minute and they don’t meet. So how do you know for sure he’s a real person? He said, “Oh I know he’s real my Ex boyfriend dated him. And confirmed his story Even wanted him back while he was with me. Besides we have a lot of friends in common from Boston on facebook ,we talk on the phone all the time for hours and I have a feelin he is real.I like him. So I know he’s real. ” So I googled his profile picture plus the ones that my friend sent me And surprise.. They are everywhere all over the internet. So since I knew the profile was fake. Whoever confirms that met him in person is lying. And the only person who confirmed was my Friends ex boyfriend Carlos.

    Carlos isn’t somebody I like to have around. And that feeling is shared with other friends as well. He always have this fake smile and whenever he talks to you he always tries to pretend he’s more than he actually is. (Although always smiling and being funny. Being charming) When my Friend broke up with him because of his attitudes (aggressive,Jealous. Stalked my friend after they broke up and much more) 3 years ago. he was also relieved to be leaving Bostonand coming to LA to have a new beginning away from this guy.

    But after a Year living here in LA. Carlos texts him saying he’s
    Moving to la for a new job opportunity.asking if he could help him out and show him around also letting him stay for while at his place. My friend gets all freaked out Feeling that he’s just coming back for him. ( by this time my Friend was already talking to Rafael on Facebook) So my friends doesn’t even reply him. Around the same time Rafael asks my friend on Facebook “Did u hear that Carlos just moved to LA? how do you feel about it?” So my friend trusting him. Tells him everything. saying that carlos texted him but he didnt reply and tells him all he’s been throu with him and he don’t wish to have him back on his life. So a few weeks later Carlos “Occasionally” bumped into my friend at this local bar ( right after we Checked on Facebook) and they started to talk. after that day my friend decided to give him another chance and become his friend once again. So now they are close friends and my friend don’t believe it can be true. Even after all he did in the past he said that Carlos would never do something like that.

    This Boy is a Pathological liar. He hides silly things from his boyfriend like he has a twin sister for no reason . and my friend once commented that he had a tought life growing up.

    It’s obvious to me that He in fact planned it all. And made my friend fall in love for this fake profile. So he could spy on him
    It’s scary the little details he thought of. How he fooled my friend all this time and how my friend simply trusts him even when I have proves.

    So my friend unfortunately is very innocent and naive
    should i be worried? Is there anything related to a real sociopath here? Or am I just being too dramatic?

    Thank you so much for reading and please let me know what you think.

  7. It’s so amazing to me how alike our experiences have been with our ex socios..mine would read my facebook emails and everything else he could find and would quote sometimes word for word as well…I used to wonder if he did that on purpose to show his level of control over me…like he was so full of himself and couldn’t help but let clues slip…after my ex and I separated, I immediately changed all of my passwords because I knew he was very good with computers. I blocked him from my facebook, email and everything else I could think of. I even downloaded an app on my phone to block calls and put his number and his kids numbers in to be blocked. He did create at least one other facebook account and had posted that he went to Rutgers University…his profile pic was the same…funny thing is, he never went to Rutgers and he had one friend, not the woman he’s living with now either, but it is a woman on his page…lol…I have had over 30 blocked calls since the middle of May, (we separated Jan 4….took me awhile to figure out there was such an app), I have had a few attempts of someone trying to break into my facebook page…one just before I moved out of the area in June and another about two weeks ago. Three days ago, I received an email telling me that someone from Mylife was trying to find me. I set that up a few years ago and forgot about it. Anyway, when I opened it, it was somebody from the town where he moved to (back in May, with his girlfriend), and I don’t know anyone else in that area…in fact, I’ve never been there. I’m guessing it’s him and I guess he’s curious as to what I’m doing. I refuse to check into it any further to find out…I really don’t care what he’s doing…I just want him to stay as far away from me as possible and I hope to never ever see or hear from him or his kids ever again…most dysfunctional family I have ever seen…stay strong ladies and stay alert…hope you all have an amazing day!!

  8. I have a relative who I suspect to be a sociopath. Not sure, he fits some of it, not all of it. After I read this I wonder even more. He took me off his main Facebook page. After he got mad at me about me talking about his biz. So I blocked him from mine. He rode by my house 3 days after and the next day I got a friend request from as alias. I am his only friend on that acct. I see can’t see any of his main FB page. Now suddenly he disappeared. He doesn’t text me anymore line before, he doesn’t ride by. I’m thinking if he is a sociopath he has a new victim. I find it strange though that a family member can act this way to another.

  9. I’m a little mad at myself right now… mad and proud…

    About a month ago, the S.P.’s 14 year old daughter sent me a message on Facebook and friended me (the day of the breakup, he made her delete me). I went back and forth with her and told her that her father had been adamant that we not have contact and that I didn’t want and/or need any “drama” from him about talking to her. We haven’t emailed since. Today, I get an email from the S.P. telling me “I am tired of your drama. You need to leave my daughter alone, don’t make me ask you again. I’m trying to be nice about it.”

    Wellll, I emailed him. I emailed him back and told him he needed to tell his ex-wife his feelings on it because she thinks it’s okay for his daughter and I to talk as his daughter loves me. I also told him that this was the last, and only, communication he would receive from me, EVER. I told him that I had asked on at least four occasions that he not email, call, text, or even attempt to contact me in any way, ever again. I then went on to tell him “since you have been warned, this is your final warning that if I hear from you again, I am going to the police department and filing a restraining order and stalking charges against you.” I made it very proper and went so far as to end the email with “this email has been BCC’d to the Burlington Police Department, as well as my father.” And I did BCC a Lieutenant friend of mine on our local P.D., and my father (who is a retired police chief) on what I sent. I even copy and pasted his prior email from two months ago telling me how he hopes I get killed on the back of my new boyfriend’s Harley and how he’d stand there and laugh if he saw me “smeared all over the highway” to the bottom of the email I sent.

    And now I wait.

    I’m terrified that I pissed him off. But I’m tired of him having control over me! NO more…. DONE with being scared! I did block his daughter on FB though so she can’t see and/or contact me anymore. I just don’t want the drama…. What he is accusing me of is exactly what I don’t want… What a lying, sick, vindictive S.O.B.!

  10. hello this is what i needed you are the best!!!!! just when I think I was getting nuts..you know my ex sociopath borderline comes and goes and leaves comm under comm of mine on youtube so I can see..since she is blocked all over…I told you last week about the fact she posted vids about 10 week pregnant =D good lord that fast heeheh already pregnant.. now today she did it again she posted that she wonders if I tell future love of mine if my ex was crazy,..or just a friend ..or if she was mean to me . and that she did not conquer her new boyfriend saying thins things ” =D oh she actually put a pic of her on her youtube =D but with her cousin ..all her pictures are always with that cousin ..never with anybody ..she never had money to buy a new camera so she could never take pics she only has pictures when her cousin is whti her.. ok listen to this she was so poor before..no even money for a cell phone..ok and as I told you she moved now far and into her own apt and a grand job..but she has no money to buy a cam? and take a pic with her new boyfriend?? after all if she wants me to know she has one and she is pregnant ..all this things she wants the world to know public place on youtube =D to me sure if for me to know..so so why not put a pic of her with him???????? that would hurt me more no??? =D
    so she has new apt..new job ..and not one cheap cam to take pics of her man?????? or her baby belly???is always this pics of her and her cousin =D
    she does like to tell me she has a new boyfriend.. get on a pic with him =D ..oh if I was lets say ask her..I know her she would say..oh I use all my money to pay the apt..cos I pay alone never have any left! and about pics with him ?? she would say
    oh I did not want to hurt you buy making you see him with me ” I bet that would be her answers ..I know that loser!
    so tell me what you think??
    Does she have one… is she pregnant..yes very possible they need fast supply..and she hated babies! =D
    I wont react

  11. What a great post! I didn’t realise my ex was a sociopath until months after we broke up, but this blog describes his behaviour so accurately.

    He has a few closed FB accounts (we’d been friends before dating, so I’d been his friend on his previous accounts) and the one he had while he was with me had crazy privacy controls.

    After we broke up all this stuff “appeared” from his other girlfriend. And I believe that he now puts his new “fabulous” life on there, but I blocked him the same minute I sent him a “get the fuck out of my life you freak” email.

    I always knew there was something not right, but you want to believe the good things…

    And gaslighted, I’m with you. I’m taking some downtime and moving my life in a new direction. Don’t rush it, these sad freaks really know how to screw you up and I find it hard to connect with or trust anyone still. But it is getting better.

    1. Ditto what Ruth says 🙂

      Bit by bit, piece by piece the screws come out & we move on 😉
      Screwless but, not clueless anymore! 🙂

      Love & Light to you 🙂
      PR xoxo

  12. I am wondering not so much about the Facebook posts, but the countless compliments and winks and hearts and sweet things he says (my ex) on Instagram and all those picture type sites that all the narcissistic people post pics of themselves on to just random girls…complete strangers that are all over the world! Girls who he will never meet…never speak to. Here I was starving for affection and attention and that energy and he eagerly spent so much time searching them out…leaving really sweet messages, compliments, telling them how beautiful they are! Additionally, he seems addicted to posting ads on personal sites looking for NSA relationships and I will go so far as say addicted to porn sites or pictures. He had it all with me! I am not Miss America, but I am a pretty woman who was very giving and sexually as well as emotionally.

    1. Hi Imsajdak,
      It’s because they are never satisfied & never will be so, take your pretty self 🙂
      & find someone who appreciates all that you offer, inside & out.
      I bet you’ll find a lot of us are pretty etc…just never enough for the Soc, their loss not ours.

      Be Brave, Stay Strong, move on when you can 🙂
      PR x

  13. I got sociopathed by a female working in a college who knew I liked her but slept with a coworker who was bullying me to sleep with her. Gaslighting the works. There was an incredible amount of deceit on this and playing me before and after from all parties. She decided no1 wasn’t good enough (sociopaths can attract other sociopaths) moved to another. That went nowhere but with the difficulty she was experiencing with no2 she was blaming/framing me as a scapegoat. She moved to no3 another coworker who also was playing me. Thats three inside 18 months all my coworkers. In a bullying environment. I tried talking to her at end of no 2 but got nowhere and if anything confirmed her jekyll and hyde behaviour. To everyone she was sweetness but I saw her mask slip several times. I didn’t know what a sociopath was though until later.

    All coworkers and complicit academic management involved in mobbing me effectively at the end supporting no3 and her but reality was just continuation of abuse from day 1. The environment itself was abusive and dysfunctional.

    I had people deliberately tarnishing me with the blame frame shame routine. She was a sociopath with other dysfunctionals feeding off each other and the abuse of me. Sleeping with three people/coworkers is not normal behaviour. But youd be surprised how a sociopath can make people have selective memories.

    I wasn’t the first in that environment to be a victim. I was no2 in a chain of bullied but the sociopath played the victim card (having slept with someone) to get their way. So that painted a target on me. Aggression shown by me is used against me. As a man id get angry if im abused or deceived. They portray you as a mental case. Not normal. As if your wrong to be angry. They talk bad behind your back to undermine you. To get their way.

    I got out after much hardship and damage to career . Luckily there was a witness to some abuse who supported me. That meant questions were raised by higher staff when it was passed on to them a little too late. The group portrayed themselves as totally innocent. They hate exposure. The sociopath strutted around like she owned the place. Management complicity.

    The moral is. Having suffered PTSD.

    Realise these types are out there. They’ll gang up on you. Sociopaths attract dysfunctionals to do their dirty work. These types will lie cheat and do absolutely anything to subjugate you to get their way.

    Stand up for yourself. If you see a trend of two or more incidents that cause you concern. Go NO CONTACT.

    Social media is something they will use on you. With ptsd you may have poor judgement due to depression. IN SILENCE IS PEACE.

    Block these types dont socialise with them. Minimise intel they can get on you. Dont let them torture you looking at them on social networks. Theyre BAD people.

    I was early 20s when it happened to me. Ptsd takes years to recover from if ever.

    Silence is peace. From that you can gain strength and build. Never be fearful. The rest will follow.

    I read these articles and know weve suffered the same tactics. Learn. Adapt. Grow. Silence is peace. The power for this is yours not theirs. Dont allow others to be abused in this way.

    The people above are all over the place now. My goal is to out succeed them career wise. For me. I read this article agree. These types will portray their happy lives on social media. The truth is they’ll be on their next victims. Everything else is what they want people to see. Its gaslighting. Just remember one day these who live with the sword will die on it. Enjoy your peace elsewhere.

      1. Frequent and intrusive flashbacks. Mood swings. Anxiety in crowds public places. Depression. An inability and fear of forming relationships. Thoughts that you feel different to everyone else that you wont have a normal life.

        Excess alert responses (jumpy over trivial things)

        People say you’re paranoid but its not because they are out to get you. Its called HYPERVIGILENCE. Another classic sign

        Classic signs of trauma.

        There are lots. Read: “bully insight” by tim field.

        In my case it set my career back years. But there is recovery.

        Unfortunately the sociopath is a master at the pitty play. They are the victims.

        They are wolves in sheeps clothing.

        The signs where there for me. She complained about her ex on the first date and then there was the deceit she showed after.

        At a young age you don’t realise this is happening to you. That people in authority can abuse their position over you in support of a sociopath for social reasons. Sociopaths and dysfunctionals will gang up on you.

        I’m telling you if this happens you can recover. That you can rise above them and the trauma they cause. But the ONLY way is to go no contact.

        The more success you have for you away from them.

        The more embarrassment for the sociopath. They won’t like that. But then you’ll have your LEGAL and emotional defences up. With no contact.

    1. So true Counter-Soc 🙂

      I was the victim of a workplace Soc in my 20’s then progressed into a dysfunctional marriage with a ADHD & then when that ended abysmally I met a high functioning Soc 😦
      I can relate to everything that you listed & having just turned 50 I am gaining my PEACE 🙂
      Still it’s been quite a ride but, I am still standing & not getting on any more rides if I can help it! 🙂

      Peace & Silence, Love & Light to you 🙂

      PR xoxo

      1. Yes I understand having read your articles. Self healing is a key thing.

        I urge all to read tim field’s book “bully insight” too. Its an eye opener.

        As a young person you dont realise what is happening to you is not normal. You get into a pattern often repeated because you are taught wrongly by the sociopath through trauma that this is normal.

        It isnt. It can take years but you slowly realise what normal was again.

        I’d urge anyone to learn about PTSD if subjected to sociopath for a prelonged period. My case was several years.

        Ptsd is not a mental illness its a psychiatric injury. Like a wound. The wound caused by trauma. In this case prolonged trauma typically.

        This is an entirely normal response.

        The way to get over it to some degree is time and peace. Thats why I like the term silence is peace.

        Silence is normal. Which is peace.

        With that the ptsd symptoms will ease to some degree. Not entirely but you will feel it is manageable.

        From there you CAN learn again a semblance of happiness.

        What happened to me was scandalous. I am still incredibly angry about it. But the silence and peace makes things bearable. As does sites like this. Sharing strength gained.

      2. Thank You Counter-Sociopath 🙂

        I am trying Gestalt Therapy as I had PTSD after my marriage ended 19 years with a adult ADHD, then walked right into the arms of my sociopath 10 years so, time to finally find PEACE 🙂
        I am now dealing with a ADD son, a bi product of his father & my Soc took my full focus off his needs….now trying to rebuild us both….wish me luck 🙂
        I definitely will be making my son my priority so, that he doesn’t suffer from my mistakes etc…

        LOVE & LIGHT 🙂

        PR xoxo

      3. Okay spiritual beings…I need a sounding board here.

        So, since I have released and “accepted” suddenly I am not hearing from the OW that he is hanging around another woman I know. The same woman whom he said he couldnt stand while we were together, and now he is “friends” with her. She happens to work close to me, also.

        So, I am wondering first, how am I attracting their presence into my experience…or at least the knowledge of them…By letting them go?

        Also, him getting close to the woman I know whom he “hated”…game, right? I mean, it cant be a coincidence, right? He knows she will run to tell me about her weekend with him. Which is fine, I dont care…I am just curious as to the correlation between me entering a place of acceptance, and then him re-appearing in a few different ways…strange?

      4. Hi GL,

        He is still gaming because he knows he has lost control of you & this OW is a direct conduit to you!

        Don’t react & don’t listen…tell the OW you are not interested but, wish her good luck she’s going to need it!

        You however are done & dusted & have a new beginning, fresh start, don’t be drawn back on even an emotional level.
        Do you healings, reiki & block the negative energy as it’s trying to break thru…block, block, block….breathe, breathe & be happy 🙂

        Game over bella, game over….love PR 🙂 xoxo

      5. I just needed to add in my case to help you understand away from the female sociopath; I was getting abuse daily from dysfunctionals trying from the outset to subjugate me. Later to play up to the sociopath.

        Work being sabotaged. Hidden then reappearing (gaslighting). Verbal abuse. Msg left on desk and with saliva. Sharing of false gossip. Fabrication of gossip. Slander. Libel. Targetting of friends. False allegations. Gate keeping. Deceit downright lies. Snooping on what you’re doing.

        That was the bullying. Them. The dysfunctional work environment the constructive dismissal and the behaviour of the female sociopath. (Who you thought you loved. Who is playing on that). Vilification. Subjugation.

        Perfect storm.

        I was lucky too. Some witnesses which saved my reputation from complete destruction. I don’t know where I would be.

        All of that above just to get their way! Like said. There is no limit to what they will do. You are beneath them. So they believe.

        I know better now. So should all “targets” of the above on here. You’re better than this.

      6. You should be proud of yourself for surviving albeit, under excruciating circumstances 😦
        I saw my brother have a complete mental breakdown due to workplace bullying ( full psychotic episode)& he has rebuilt his career in the Armed Forces so, extensive bullying going on there 😦
        I believe he is also married to a Narc or a Soc 😦 not sure but, she has done some really weird stuff to him & us (his family).
        I seem to come from a long line of victims….my father had a break down ( psychotic episode) due to bullying etc…we are all good people just what the Soc’s like to target.
        My brother & father are extremely strong but, a bit Aspergers???types….I am discovering a lot because of my Soc….some good will come from my lessons as it has really raised my awareness & the repeated patterns of behavior in my own family.
        We are survivors though a battled scarred but, survivors all the same 🙂
        My life reads like a novel of great hardships & great sacrifices yet survival.
        I bet yours does too 🙂

        PR x

      7. Hmm..true, true. Okay, I just needed confirmation that this is NOT a coincidence and that he is still gaming and up to his schemes. Yes, although it is comforting to hear from the OW, I am over it. I wish her well. I just dont care enough to want to be updated on his where abouts and with who. Just more or less entertaining that he chose someone who works close to me. interesting.

      8. Interesting? I’d say predictable 🙂

        I remembered mine called a girlfriend whom I was estranged from at the time so, when she told me he’d called I didn’t believe her!
        He had an explanation for calling her as her number was in his phone because, she was looking for a car to buy (he’s a car dealer as well as a fireman) & he actually had two women in his phone with the same name & showed me….on the pretext he was calling the other one who worked in the typing pool at fire dept…he was calling her & rang my girlfriend accidentally!!!…oh yes an elaborate lie….:(
        I recently called my girlfriend & apologized as I now realize the game etc…& oh yes he was actually trying to get her 😦 she was smart though & never betrayed me!

        So nothing they do surprises me….

        Keep moving on GL….the spell is broken & you are free to fly 🙂

  14. My Spath (or rather, the Spath of my widowed parent) posts pics herself with my dad on facebook ALL THE TIME. As in, not one picture of going out for icecream or something, but about 10. I try to avoid it, but sometimes the temptation is too great and I end up looking at the pics and they are upsetting. Is it normal for sociopaths to go COMPLETELY OVER THE TOP on social media like this? I think I know the answer…

    1. Everything is a game. A tactic to play people’s emotions. The sociopath is a needy person desperate for attention.

      Give them little you have the power not them.

      1. Yes, very true. It really does bother me when I see them so I generally don’t look. But when I do, it’s enough to ruin my whole day. She just goes SO completely over the top when posting things- 5,792,470,357 a day, it seems! This can’t be normal…

  15. One funny thing…I couldn’t post here on this board last year. Nothing I posted ever appeared. Then I found out that He had hacked my computer.. & my email…& was reading boards that I posted on. He is computer savvy, he said recently. 😦
    Before I knew him better, I had a major crush on him, & my emails to my bestie said so, but things didn’t work out. He had a GF & expected me to cheat with him. I wasn’t interested in doing that.
    By accident we both wound up together on another board. (I was looking for an explanation of his bizarre creeper behaviour.) I finally realized that he has several personas there, as well as his Mr. Respectable usual one. I found out a lot about how weird he is sexually.
    When I finally figured out that that were all him being a socio. chameleon, I finally got the picture of what he’s really like. He did not really conceal his crazy identities from me. In the end he was pretty forthcoming with his Mr. Respectable ID as well, but not as a hypersexual persona.
    I don’t read that board any more, & I’m very cautious about what I put on other boards. I never post what I’m doing or where I’m going before leaving, only after returning. (he stalks, has friends stalk for him, as well as cyber stalking) I don’t even go near FB.
    From what he has posted, both as “wild & crazy types” & Mr. Respectable, he has pretty much shown me what a sick A**hole he is.

    1. Its crazy when they stalk you online. I was. Confused why I kept being locked out of my hotmail account. Also my Facebook. It was because he kept hacking into it. He found me on another support board and even posted there to defend himself!! Crazy…. Any comments on this site need to be verified before they appear and the last that was written by a readers partner I published and made as a post….

      1. I got an email on Tuesday (his usual prowling day off) that was headed as something like “Why yulya mi” with “Good Day!” as the subject.. He can write English very well & I guess this was supposed to be “Why did you lie to me?”
        I guess in his mind, I did lie to him. The last thing I ever said to him almost a year ago was, ” If your status changes (from having a GF), look me up.”
        Maybe I should have added the caveat that if he stalked, group stalked, cyber hacked, spied on me, or otherwise harassed me that the original statement would become null & void? I had no idea that I had to!
        When I went out to gas up the car on Tuesday afternoon, I ended turning onto my street about 100 yards behind him. (thank goodness he didn’t check his rear view mirror.) He veered across the road to my house, slowed down, & checked to see if i was @ home or maybe in the yard. The email was written later to chastise me for not being at home?My neighbour saw him & check the incident out.
        He may be trying to blame his ex GF for all the rotten stuff. He describes her as a “Psycho”. He did nothing to stop her, or even give me a ‘heads up’ on things. IMHO, he was getting his jollies with her, & possibly a little sexual gratification from her, while thinking about me.
        The Socio & The Psycho…A perfect match made in Hell!

        He’s back to more ‘Ruining” me, stage 3. Every time he & the GF have had a major fight, I start seeing him all over the place! I don’t stop & talk to him, & he starts a smear campaign. Now I assume he saying that I am chasing him…. :[
        (I’m older than him, so I guess being described as a dirty old broad chasing a sweet young thing? 🙂 Funny, he didn’t seem to notice or care about the difference. It’s not noticeable. He says he is in his mid 30’s,,Um – those must’a been some 30 hard living years! I took him for mid 40’s, & I don’t think I’m wrong. I call NARCISSIST !
        The True Insanity here, is that He Thinks that what he did to me was O.K., & that I should be O.K. with it!!!! WTF???!!!
        He still refers to himself as a “Knight in Shining Armour”…..”& that’s why women like me so much”. 😀 😀
        More like The Dragon, I’d say. 😦

      2. Well…. he might have been in his mid fourties and lied about his age – or spent his life doing a paper round uphill 🙂

        Yes, it isn’t that he thinks its ‘ok’ he just doesn’t see why its such a big deal. He is unable to empathise to see things from your point of view, unless it is of benefit to himself. It just doesn’t really connect.

        He probably thinks he is a knight in shining armour that rescues damsels in distress, without actually realising that he causes further distress than what is needed.

        He probably doesn’t like it that you were not at home. In his mind you would have been with another man (why else wouldn’t you be there for him) it doesn’t occur to him that you might have your own life plans that have nothing to do with him.

        As for his ‘why you lie to me’…. haha what a joke, when the only real liar is him? But – as he lies – he suspects that the rest of the world are liars too. Which of course, is just not true. But he doesn’t see it like this. He is suspicious as he is untrustworthy and he knows it. So everyone else is under suspect.

        Is there anyway that you can cut off contact with him?

  16. What is also difficult is when you stalk them in the throes of your heartbreak and betrayal. You were again manipulated into doing things contrary to your ethics, and you better believe they will add this to their “evidence” folder to protect themselves against exposure and manipulate their new partner.

    “See this, he did this and admits it.”

    The other person (like you) then makes the logical error of: if person A can be proven to have done something wrong, person B (the sociopath) is the victim.

    I made one particularly critical error in thinking early on. Her ex-husband is a certified sociopath / narcissist. I didn’t even realize that, even though this was true, it did not mean that SHE WASN’T AS WELL.

    We try so hard to make them into what we thought they were. To make the facts of the present fit the image in the past.

    1. Hi JB, this is so true, but it isn’t only that you try to make them into what you thought they were…. they give a very good illusion of who you want them to be, and by the time the truth emerges about who they really are – you are in love with the illusion and trapped.

  17. Update for Positive Girl. Either his relatives (maybe parents?) or close friends live around he corner from me. He goes there almost daily. Lately, he has been going around the other way, avoiding my house.
    He may be back working @ the place where I met him, which is seconds from my house.
    So -it’s a free country…
    A few days ago late @ night, I can hear somebody screaming down my street. High pitched, hysterical screaming, while driving @ a ridiculous rate of speed. The car slows slightly @ my house, & I hear, “WHY AM I ALWAYS THE WEIRD-O!!” (it kind’a sounded like him, but he is a Very Large man, & his usual speaking voice is quite low pitched.)
    I shouldn’t have, but I peeked @ a B. Board that he posts on…
    There is a series of post about how he met a woman on a computer dating site. They have 1 date, then a 2nd, & on the 3rd date he announces to his male on line followers that he “Slipped one in on her.” (had sex)
    O.K….So he fooled, coerced, manipulated her into sex that she wasn’t 100% sure that she wanted it..? That’s what “slipped one in on her”, says to me. He gave his male buddies a play by play of the sex, from what one of them said as a reply. 😦 At least he did that in Personal Messages’s, so it wasn’t visible on the board.) ICK! Some Knight in Shining Armour, huh!?
    The next night she broke up with him. That was the night he went screaming past here. I guess he went over to his friends/relatives to lick his wounded pride?
    Sex is a contest to him. I’m so glad I never participated! 🙂

  18. Hello, I’ve been in aa on and off relationship with a woman for 4yrs.Every 3-4 months she leaves me.it devistates me every time. We have a child together and she uses her to manipulate me. Bad thing is I am already a single father of 3. So, some of her actions almost caused serious issues on my 3 children. She has pressed charges of me hitting her, which she later admitted to the department it was just to keep me from seeing my daughter. They dropped the case as false. Days later, dhs was contacting me about it. After the interview and reading the reports, dropped all investigation as being false. She did this with no regard for my children. This is one of many circumstances I’ve had to live with. I had become so abused that I found myself giving into what ever she wanted, going through my phone, control of my fb deleting by explaining every woman I had as a friend. My profile pic had to be of me and her. She would add my friends to her friends list. You get the point. I was so beat down I just simply let her do it. Understand, at the same time, When ever I asked her of something suspicious, she ripped into me with verbal abuse and violant rants slamming doors, throwing my things,start packing her things,etc.. And every time she had a full explanation and if I pointed out something that was clearly wrong, she would just say” I don’t have to explain myself “. Making me feel as if I wasn’t even worth the effort. I truly love her but her patern of this self destruction of every few months has simply broken me down. I hope that by sharing this it may help someone who is facing the same thing in their lives. To let them know, your not alone nor are you any of the many names they have called you! That’s were I am now, feeling alone and as worthless as a piece of trash. Don’t let them beat you down as I have. And please, don’t think you can teach them love! Worst mistake of my life, as I refused to give up on her. Failed and hurt more every time. Thanks for your time

  19. I’m the one that was snooping his twitter / facebook. And for good reason. It started out with suspicion. Then I found messages I wish I hadn’t. So that I had all the more reason to hunt. We broke up in December. He gave me his passwords, so he knows I know them. Yet he still hasn’t changed them. I think he posts things intentionally, knowing and loving that I would look. Even though I have cut off contact by blocking him, and ignoring his texts, I still fall into the temptation of looking at his accounts. I am really ashamed of it, I know it is really wrong and I know I am only torturing myself by doing it. Recently he posted something about not having slept with anyone for 5 months and how he was planning to stay celibate. We broke up 5 months ago. I feel like he wrote this knowing I would read it, so I would get some sense that he was dedicated to me and reach out. Maybe I am reading too much into it? I was shamefully happy to read that he hadn’t been with anyone in that long, though I caught him in so many lies that this could just be another. And it could just be his master mind manipulation trying to get at me, knowing I may check. I mean he gave me his passwords. He knows I have the power to log in. Why wouldn’t he change them? Is this part of his false transparency? I have wanted to tell him to change them, but that would mean contacting him, which I am trying to avoid at all cost. I hate that I cave to the temptation. I hate that I haven’t totally cut him out of my life and my attention span.

  20. The other thing that I have fell prey to is his hypocrisy on social media. Several time he laid a beating on me, yet he posts these strong statements against men who sexually assaulted women, like he is such “a good guy”. He goes on about how “justice will be served” yet he never took responsibility for physically abusing me. I know I am still playing the game by even reading his bs. My family is so sick of hearing me cry about this relationship and the sadness I feel that it has ended. I should be happy I am out, and on many days I am. But then I fall back into mourning the loss of all the imaginary goodness.

  21. Hi , it’s really helpful to read that so many have had similar experiences of these truly awful people . I’ve been with my husband for 5 years now and we are expecting our first child . I experienced the sociopathic smear campaign and online stalking from his ex. She is truly a toxic malignant narcissistic sociopath. She started stalking us online on every platform she could find as soon as he got rid of her . She would write cryptically about us online and it was soon obvious she was keeping tracks on us. This is when the police got involved as it was now a cyber stalking and online bullying case. She was making up stories about us and posting them online. Anything we did she would comment on but it was all without mentioning names. If we went out, if we stayed in if we went on holiday, anything we did she was stalking and lurking despite being blocked on everything .they are masters of mind games and only wrote to try to engage victims in their games. It’s so very sad and such a tragic existence .It went on for two and a half years . She had been known for having violent outbursts and making violent threats. All this came through friends telling us. Ironically neither of us ever looked. We had an online harassment specialist monitoring it. It’s sickening the lengths these people go to to create drama and an alternate life / identity. It is absolutely true that they accuse others of what they themselves do. They are mentally ill. But they use the Internet to creat huge smear campaigns aimed at their victims. They sail as close to the law as humanly possible. She has a terrible reputation and everyone around her knows her true persona.as a true sociopath she uses people to get where she wants to and has no real friends. I had had a run in with a sociopathic man before so recognised all the behaviour from the get go. Although it’s more common in men I actually think narcissistic sociopathic abusive women are becoming more and more common and easier to spot in the workplace. As I have a relative who is very high up in the police force it is all being monitored but there needs to be more laws to counteract this awful behaviour. This site nails every trait of a sociopath . I’m really glad I found it . I hope more people find it before they become bictims from these people.

    1. Hi and welcome to the site 🙂 Your comments are right. Things are slightly changing in the UK, but the truth is they are such good pathological liars, who relish duping, conning and getting others the blame for their wrongdoings, it is hard to prove.

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