Procrastination is the biggest thief of time
Sociopath’s love to stall for time. They are the biggest thief of time. They do not have much else to do with their lives and so they love to waste your time.
I wrote in the article ‘dupers delight and the joy of conning’ about the joy that the sociopath gets from conning you. The rush of endorphins that they get from this and how addictive duping you is for them. For a sociopath, ‘stalling for time’ can offer a similar feeling.
By stalling for time, they know full well that they are not going to give you what they say, and so they are wasting your time. This gives them control over your life whilst you are waiting for them. Examples of stalling for time (and wasting your time)
1. I will get a job, and life will be like this……
2. I will pay you back by this time
3. I will do in this time….
4. I will get for you by this date…..
5. I will be paid in ? weeks
6. False empty promises of a wonderful future, that will never materialise
But these are all words. The actions will never match the words. It gives the sociopath a sense of dupers delight and they get a feeling of fun that they feel that they are conning you. This is exactly what he is doing. He is robbing you of your time, and stopping you from getting on with your life.
At the time, it probably seems absolutely pointless. ‘Why do you say these things, and make false promises’ you ask? It seems a futile exercise. It is frustrating to listen to the endless excuses, and yet more stalling for time again. Especially when you have heard it repeatedly, the same thing over. They repeat the same story of empty promises. Never showing actions which relate to the promises that they have made. So what does stalling for time achieve for them? It achieves (for them) the following:
1. Control over you
2. Control over your ability to make decisions for your own life
3. Stopping you from meeting someone else, moving on, being with other people who wont waste your time
4. Isolates you from support
5. An extension of time to use you as a supply source (for whatever they want)
Whilst you are waiting for Mr sociopath to fulfill his empty promises, you are left in suspension. Waiting for him to deliver whatever brand of goods he has promised this time. Your life is on hold. You are not moving forward.
If you spend too long with a sociopath, you will realise that in all the time that you knew him, your life has gone nowhere at all. You went round and round in circles, wasting your time and achieving nothing at all. Sociopaths are great time wasters, they waste their own time, and there is nothing that they love more, than to waste someone else’s too.
Sociopaths do not have too much in life. Because they do not feel too much, because of their lack of connections with the past, and their lack of life goals. The one thing that they have plenty of, is time. Time, is also the one thing that others have little of. Because of this, they love to waste your time. It gives the sociopath a sense of dupers delight to see how long that they can get away with it. Sociopath’s struggle with boredom. Wasting time and conning releases boredom for them. They struggle with boredom because
1. They have a lack of life goals
2. They feel little inside
3. They do not learn from past mistakes, so they do not progress
4. Their own life goes round in circles, and so it is fun to make yours go round in circles with them.
Spending time with a sociopath, will likely get you nowhere, and after a while you will realise that you are wasting your time. Not only are you wasting your time, you are also wasting your life.
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