Sometimes I am inspired to write, by google searches that have had access to the page. Today there is one, which asks
How to get the sociopath to respect you
The truth is, you will never get the sociopath to respect you. The sociopath is by nature, self serving, self centred, and basically selfish. They can do good things, and can be very helpful. But always there is an agenda and a motive for their helpfulness. They usually want something from you.
The sociopath doesn’t really have self respect, let alone respect for others. The closest that you might come, is if he feels that you are an equal to him (you might cause him damage). But this is unlikely as sociopaths are also narcissists. So they are constantly seeking narcissistic supply.
The sociopath usually thinks that they are smarter than (and they are usually intelligent),and above other people. They lack moral compass, and whilst they seek respect, they are not very respectful.
You need to look at the reality, what the sociopath does, to everyone that they come into contact with:
- Theft (sometimes)
- Parasitic lifestyle (living off others, usually without their consent)
All of these character traits, show a lack of respect for someone else. It is not right to lie to someone that you respect.
The sociopath might feign respect. But it is not genuine. Seeking this from him, would be a fruitless exercise. You would waste your time, and go around in circles. The sociopath thinks only of themselves and their own needs. Your needs are not important.
When you have respect for someone, you have respect for the other persons rights. Their welfare, their choice to make decisions for themselves. You allow them space and room to have freedom and to grow. You are honest with someone you respect, and mindful of their feelings.
To have respect, you have empathy, and try to have understanding for the other person. You don’t lie, cheat or steal.
The sociopath is unable to behave in this way towards others. If it appears that he is behaving this way towards others, it is faked. Behind the mask of charisma, there is an angry controlling character who thinks only of himself.
You cannot change the sociopath they cannot even change themselves. They find lies more easy to express than the truth. They find reality more difficult than living in a fantasy world that they create. They are manipulative, cunning and deceptive. By their very nature, of who they truly are, because of the patterns in the brain, you could never teach a sociopath to respect you.
You would be better off accepting this fact, and focusing your energy instead, on healing you! :
Ps – another one that came up in my google search today was ‘how to master my sociopathy‘ – honestly, there are more and more sociopaths and psychopaths writing now. If they could stay focused (not get bored) and write a book, it would be interesting to read.