You might have wondered how did you stay so long? How were you deluded for such a long time? It isn’t that you were stupid. It is that the sociopath is a predator. Everything that the sociopath does is premeditated. They do not think too far ahead, but they often have a plan. If you still have the sociopath in your life. Observe. When they are planning their eyes narrow. They think – then they give you the next story, this is engineered to get whatever they want.
The sociopath is arrogant and thinks that everyone else around him/her is stupid. The sociopath is a narcissist, but this isn’t apparent. At least not until they start to lose control and then you see a different character. Mr Control then emerges, and this character is not kind, caring, thoughtful or loving.
The person that you see when the sociopath is losing control is who they really are. Unlike the narcissist (who is more stupid in comparison to the sociopath) who I admit – is smart, the sociopath is different. The sociopath goes to great lengths to hide who they truly are to you, and what they are thinking.
The sociopath is selfish and always thinks of themselves and their own needs. They only do something for someone else, when there is something in it for them. The sociopath is always thinking ‘what’s in it for me?’ they cannot see the point of doing things for others unless there is a long term objective for themselves.
What is most confusing, is that sociopath’ s are very good at using a mask of deception. What you see, is rarely what you get with a sociopath. In fact, what you see, is often opposite to what you are getting.
As discussed earlier, sociopaths struggle with empathy – they can sympathise – but not empathise. Although they will go to great lengths to ‘feign’ empathy (therefore appearing more empathetic and caring than anyone you have ever met) – but it is usually fake.
Liar liar pants on fire
Fakery is something that sociopaths are experts at. Whilst the majority of society find it easier to tell the truth. The sociopath is the opposite. The sociopath finds it easier to lie and deceive than to be honest. Sociopaths lie, even when telling the truth would be far easier. At this you might think that they are quite crazy. You are partly right. Lies for the sociopath are the mask of protection. Remember that two things are more important than anything to sociopaths.
By constantly lying to you, feeding you false information, the sociopath has the upper hand. They are in control and ultimately, (for now anyway) they are winning. Remember also that sociopaths can get a rush of endorphins and experience dupers delight from conning you (or anyone else). Even when the sociopath does not start out to con you, within a very short space of time, the same pattern will repeat. The reason for this is because the sociopath feels safer behind the mask of illusion.
The sociopath would feel very exposed having to be truthful all of the time. How could they be in control and win – if they are telling the truth? And if you know all of their information? This is why the sociopath, whilst demanding to know all of your business are very secretive about their own.
As sociopaths do not
- Experience empathy
- Have the same range of emotions
- Experience guilt, remorse or shame
Telling lies becomes habit. A way of life. They do not particularly care about your needs, welfare or feelings. As they are fulfilling themselves. Everything that they do has a final outcome (in their mind) – of what is in it for them? If there is nothing in it for them, it is probably pointless doing (in their mind).
Sociopaths will therefore do and say whatever they feel like – simply to get what they want. The sociopath is not stupid. In fact the reverse, they are often intelligent. They see life as a game, and you and everyone else, merely players in the game. If you have a sociopath in your life, or if you are thinking of inviting them back into your life – be aware – nothing will change. Nothing ever changes with the sociopath. At least not for any length of time. They will always revert to previous patterns of behaviour. As it is behind the mask of deception that they feel safe.
Sociopath’s think that they are smart and clever, usually they are. However this is intelligence combined with manipulation and deceit. This is what makes the sociopath dangerous. Sociopaths can appear to be the kindest most friendly people on earth. They can be funny, witty, charismatic and charming – Until they start to lose control…. and then a flick is switched inside, the mask of pretension comes down – and you witness the real person behind the mask.
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