Life, is a challenge. In life, we have good and bad things happen to us. We all have this. Sometimes life goes good, sometimes life goes bad.
Sometimes we get a run of bad luck, and life feels pretty crappy. But we know, that the sun will shine again and life will get better. If not today, then someday. So we hold on tight, do our bests, try to focus on the positive, and gratitude and work towards what we can fix in life.
When it is more than just a run of bad luck
I thought that things had been pretty bad from 2009- end of 2011. If I look back, it wasn’t all bad. There good things mixed in, as much bad luck I also had very good luck too. I was like everyone else, lucky and unlucky.
During those two years, I was with a Narcissist. I could SEE why things were bad with him. His abuse was overt. I was traumatised and unable to stand up for myself. He was an abuser, and I could see him abusing me, although I found it hard to get away. I did. I was with him for a year, during that year, I managed to call time out for two months to focus on me, and I ended the relationship at the end of the year. No problem.
Sociopathic influenced bad Luck
I was really unlucky when seven months after ending the relationship with the Narcissist I would meet the Sociopath. He walked into my life and started behaving like he was my long lost husband.
I thought that after the bad luck of the Narcissist relationship (actually he told me the Narc was a Psychopath)… I thought that perhaps I was now in for a period of ‘good luck’.
We can’t have all bad luck relationships? Right? Some people are lessons and others are blessings? -Right?
On the ‘surface’ everything seemed to be perfect. Then so much bad luck happened, almost immediately:
- His place was burgled
- His ex became terminally ill with cancer
- He lost his job
- Then another and another
- None of those employers paid him
- His daughter became sick
- He became seriously physically unwell
- He had to suddenly move out to sort out all of the drama
- I started to upset and lose friends
- His grandfather let him down on money he owed him
- His ex had ruined his reputation, was a psycho and he had lost all of his friends
There was so much drama, and so much bad luck, I couldn’t believe it. How on earth can this be happening, right now?
I felt that pull in my stomach, the stress that I felt, the anxiety. I couldn’t believe that I had finally met somebody who felt so right for me, yet so many bad things were happening. There was no time to be able to just ‘live’ ‘have fun’ ‘celebrate meeting each other’, be happy’. Simply as so much time was spent on fire fighting what appeared to be seemingly very bad luck.
There was a part of me, three months into the relationship, after a daily assault of more and more bad luck, that was affecting me.
- His lack of money
- Losing jobs
- His having zero support network of family and friends
- Being totally 100% reliant on me, and his drama affecting my life and my own stability in life
The truth is….that there was NO BAD LUCK, EVERYTHING was Sociopath created -DELIBERATELY!
While I was used to life having ‘good luck, then bad luck’ the ups and downs of life. Being with the Sociopath there were no real ups. The ups were as manufactured by the Sociopath as the downs. The ups were always very short lived.
Sociopaths are plastic manufactured people – and they manufacture luck!
What happens when you are with a Sociopath, is that you start to lose control of your own life, of your own luck, of your own destiny. Your life becomes owned and controlled in the hands of an abuser.
You will never be lucky with a Sociopath. If you were lucky with a Sociopath, they would ruin and destroy this for you by
- Being jealous
- Being insecure
- Needing to take over and be in control
You have no life. If you are in the relationship with a Sociopath, you are nothing but an empty shell, a puppet that the Sociopath takes control of, and plays with, for his or her own entertainment.
As a test going out there to people, tell me, how many of you experienced good luck being with the Sociopath (apart from the perceived good luck of being with them) AND hung on to what made them feel lucky?
Any of you?…. Just one?…..
I was watching a film the other day. A lot of people from I don’t know 2007/8, had said that I looked a lot like Lyndsay Lohan. Having been away from ‘life’ for a while, I looked her up to see what had been happening to my life. I saw her train crash, and thought how that resembled my life (minus me being in trouble with the police, drinking or doing anything illegal) – Ok, I know you will say ‘well that is nothing like it then’…. but you get the point, just drama after drama, and bad luck after bad luck.
The only difference was Lyndsay Lohan was ‘kind of’ …. in control of her own life. But was she? A young girl, who was sold money, fame, from a very young age. I wondered did she have a Sociopath at the helm of her life? Was a Sociopath involved in her life?
I don’t know.
When you invite a Sociopath into your life. You invite BAD LUCK. Absolutely, without a shadow of a doubt, you INVITE BAD LUCK.
This isn’t bad luck because you are unlucky. It is bad luck that is MANUFACTURED by the Sociopath, to fuck you up, trip you up, make you look bad, weak, ruin your reputation and to strip from you, anything that is good in your life.
Sociopaths, are, to be frank, just damn UNLUCKY to be around.
Focusing on ‘missed opportunities’
Aside from turning your world upside down, the Sociopath additional to this, will focus on what we will refer to as your ‘missed opportunities’ in life. Is there:
- Something you want
- Something you need to achieve
- Something that was taken from you that you want returned?
- Somewhere that you want to travel to?
Anything really, think about those missed opportunities in life, the Sociopath will offer to fulfil the gap and provide them for you. Sociopaths not only create bad luck (DELIBERATELY), they also hone in on YOUR life and offer to fill the vacancy that you are advertising to be filled.
I know, Sociopaths are sneaky. They are manipulative and deceptive. They fuck up your life on purpose.
How funny was that?
To reverse ‘bad luck’
- Bin the Sociopath – forever – just get rid they only bring toxic vibes with an exterior of ‘hippy persona’
- Remember ONLY YOU can create your own luck in life, so once you have got rid of your BAD LUCK SOCIOPATH CHARM, that you once had hanging on your arm, get out there and rebuild
- Remember, ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’, if it took the Sociopath a while to bring you down, it might take you a while to rebuild
- Take it one day at a time. Each day work towards goals, small goals, longer term goals, just don’t GIVE UP
- FOCUS ON GRATITUDE!!
Focusing on Gratitude
By focusing on Gratitude there is NO ROOM FOR THE SOCIOPATH, at all – what do you have to be grateful to them for? I want you to focus on gratitude, every day. It will take practice at first. Focusing on gratitude will bring focus back to you and your life. Be grateful for EVERYTHING. Your home, the bed you sleep in, the fact that your car works, that there are shops with food, that people work in the store, you have electricity, running water. You know focus on EVERYTHING.
When you do this, the Sociopath will shrink, until they are nothing.
You can do this.
Love yourself, you really are worth it! 🙂
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